I remember the time that a friend of mine was lying on a bed, looking me in the eye and saying “fuck me” and I somehow missed the hint.

I remember an acquaintance was complaining about their computer turning off when they closed the lid, so I told her to hand it over and I’d see if I could fix it.

She said she’d buy me dinner to thank me, but my fix didn’t really fix the problem, I just made the computer not sleep when you closed it, and so I didn’t feel like it was worth a reward

She even asked a second time, it took me years to realize I unknowing (firmly) shot her down

this doesn’t make sense tho, why would she say “talking to my crush is awful” to her crush? it doesn’t seem reasonable

Reject indirect, cue-based communication. Embrace direct, non-repentant “I want to have fuck with you”.

If it helps folks feel better, successful relationships often require successful communication. If one is playing games and the other isn’t getting it, that may be a good thing that the moment was missed; you weren’t on the same wavelength and should probably pair with a better match.

There was this one guy I was good friends with during my late teens, always taking pictures of us… Took me embarrassingly long to realise he had the gay hots for me. In my defense, I leaned way more hetero at the time.

We could be actively fucking and I’d still doubt if that’s what she meant. I’d need something like a testimony under oath and corroborating opinions from three independent psychologists.

It’s so hard to see past a belief that nobody could possibly by interested in you that way.

Just like others with a missed , obvious, opportunity.

I had a girl take me to a room, take her clothes off, and then just look at me and and ask “Well?”

I had no fucking clue what she meant or what to do so I just did nothing. She then changed into different clothes and left.

Do you wanna come up for a coffee?

Nah thanks, not in the mood for coffee