I started more than a year ago, i used to be a fat fuck, however i lost weight and now am at a pretty decent one, however i would still be classified as ‘skinny fat’, however when it comes to gaining muscle, i cant seem to fucking do it, i m just a teen I cant fully optimize my diet or sleep schedule, my parents dont like me even going to the gym, I cant ask them to make meals with the perfect macros or get me a personal trainer

My 2 friends are at a similar situation to me, however they seem to be progressing fine, both in musculature and strength progression, i for some reason seem to be stuck, in everything, i have tried everything, mixing, reddit ppl, coolcicada ppl, but i have not been progressing for months, as suboptimal my stuff around the gym is i should be atleast progressing somewhat, I even tried creatine but with no results, i also get asked what the fuck do i even do in the gym because i hv nothing to show for it, i used to love going to the gym thats why i was so regular from the day it started, but now it just seems like a chore

These are my current stats Bench Press 50kg (3x5) OHP 35kg (3x5) Deadlifts (95kg)(1x5) Barbell rows 50kg (3x5) Squats 50kg (2x5)(1x3) These are from last week, these has been similar since OCT

I m seriously considering quitting, I have no fucking clue, i still look skinny fat, however nothing seems to work anyway, Id rather quit and do other productive stuff such as my studies

I have around a month left in my membership, i guess i will just do random ass machines to at-least get my moneys worth and machines wont injure me and are easier

    • respectmahauthoritybrah@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      1 month ago

      I hv started making good progress by changing up programs, ig my RPE was way too high (maybe volume as well) and i couldn’t leave enough gas to actually recover between sessions

      Thanks to the above guy who recommended BFS, i was browsing and found ‘GZCLP’ which is a very similar program, but it gives u ur training max and percentages so that u dont push urself too hard and overtrain, i had to strip back a ton of weight though, but in 4 weeks i definitely hv been progressing, especially on squat on OHP, i had to strip a ton more weight on bench and dead though, i haven’t still reached back to the weight i was doing pre switch, but i definitely have been progressing as my reps on AMRAP have been staying pretty constant despite the weight going up, i hv gained some little size as well

      So yeah too high of an rpe and volume (i m not doing many isolation movements either, just the vanilla program (3 exercises per session) + couple exercises to target some weak spots, or as a prehab (facepulls, upper chest flies etc)), ig i got too sucked on internets ‘high intensity, 1 RIR, 15sets a week’ bullshit

      Thanks for asking, hv a beautiful day :)

  • minnix@lemux.minnix.devEnglish
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    2 months ago

    You listed your current stats, but what were your starting stats? I bet they were a lot different. You should be competing with yourself, not others.

  • Cyborganism@lemmy.ca
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    2 months ago

    Take it easy. Forget your friends and their progression. We each have different bodies with different metabolisms.

    Especially at 16, your body hasn’t finished changing yet. But doing exercise consistently around 3x a week, will help you develop a better metabolism over time.

    Working out is something that take time for some to get results. Just don’t give up. Keep at it. There are more benefits to working out than just big muscles and weight loss. It can really help your mental health as well.

    • respectmahauthoritybrah@sh.itjust.worksOP
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      2 months ago

      I do PPL 6x, i used to love going to the gym thats why i do PPL the reddit one and currently the coolcicada one, however now it just seems like a chore, there should be atleast some progression, but when i get under the bar its as if i just dont have any strength, in fact, i m sure i m regressing a bit

      • Cyborganism@lemmy.ca
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        2 months ago

        Maybe you’re pushing yourself too hard and not resting well enough. Make sure you get enough sleep. Diet wise, just try to eat balanced meals with lots of protein and fiber. A little bit of carbs is okay, especially in the morning for breakfast or lunch. Especially from grains, beans, vegetables, maybe some fruits. They give you energy for your workout. Make sure you eat well during the day before a workout. But not directly before working out, or you’ll feel sluggish.

        Don’t worry about the fat. If you’re doing heavy weights you’re gonna get gains, not lose weight. If your objective is to lose fat, then your gotta eat way less, cut sugars and carbs and do more cardio.

          • Cyborganism@lemmy.ca
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            2 months ago

            I’ve been working out for 10 years pretty consistently. I eat what I want and don’t really diet but I’m careful with portions.

            I’m 43 now. Even after over 10 years of going to the gym I still have a bit of a gut. Can’t help it. It is what it is. I just learned to accept it. However, my body shape changed. Wider shoulders and lats, thicker thighs and butt, more muscular arms and shoulders. But still a little on the thicc side. People have asked me if I was a wrestler lol. I just learned to accept my physique and appreciate it. It’s part of who I am and honestly, nobody complained but me. In fact I got a lot of positive remarks and it really boosted my confidence.

            You’re still young at 16. Like I said, your body is going to go through changes in your 20s, 30’s and even 40’s. Give yourself some time. Maybe when you hit your 20’s your metabolism will change and because you’ve already been working out your physionomy will change.

            If it’s becoming a chore and it’s not fun, do it less often and change your routine. Make it fun. Get a kinesiologist to help as well if you can. They know how the muscles work best and can give you an incredible program that’ll change how you work out and give you better results without hurting yourself.

  • Big_Boss_77@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Are your weights always static? Or do you mix it up?

    What does your diet look like? I know you said your parents aren’t a fan, but you can still do some rough math and figure out what (if anything) you’re lacking. My guess would be, since you’re eating what you’re parents make, you could be lacking protein or something. In college, our strength trainers would feed guys in your position peanut butter and honey sandwiches with protein shakes.

    There are also supplements you could take… but I don’t like suggesting those because your body could react differently than mine or anyone else’s. Do your due diligence on those… but when I was your age (maaaaany moons ago lol) I used to take one tablespoon of glutamine direct on my tongue and wash it down with water right after a work out. Don’t know if the direct approach was necessary, but it was the thing at the time.

    All of that being said…don’t quit. I’ve been in your shoes, and it’s waaaaaaay to easy to go back to being a “fat fuck” and anything is better than nothing, even if your goals don’t manifest immediately. It might be time to try a different workout though, check out the “Bigger, Faster, Stronger” workout (assuming it’s still around). The places I’ve been that used it had a lot of success with it and produced some very strong individuals. If you’re interested, let me know and I’ll see if I can scrounge up a link or some material.