This is kind of the logic that hurts me. People like me will express that those terms make them uncomfortable, but someone will argue that theyāll use gendered words with the intent to be gender neutral. But likeā¦itās not very empathetic to disregard someoneās feelings because using āgirlā is uncomfortable. Itās kind of putting your feelings above thereās. If you have the opportunity to be kind and affirming, to make someone feel safe and comfortable in the world, why not embrace that? A simple change in your language could make someoneās entire day.
Nobody (including you) should put other peoplesā feeling above your own, as that is an extremely unhealthy thing to do. Being considerate of someoneās feelings and sacrificing your own feelings for someone else are two very different things.
The people I talk to donāt mind the way I talk, and that is how I judge my language. I also make sure that I give them the environment necessary to express their discomfort with my language if they have any.
Do you have any non-gendered alternatives to ādudeā and ābro?ā
Nobody (including you) should put other peoplesā feeling above your own
I kinda see where youāre coming from, but I wholeheartedly disagree.
You should never put your needs below anyone elseās, but Iād argue that itās very healthy to mildly inconvenience yourself in order to avoid majorly inconveniencing or hurting others. In fact Iād say thatās kind of the entire cornersone of human civilization.
Yes, and every time someone is bothered by my language, I change my language specifically for them, like how I call my transfem friends by their name instead of saying ādudeā, etc.
This is kind of the logic that hurts me. People like me will express that those terms make them uncomfortable, but someone will argue that theyāll use gendered words with the intent to be gender neutral. But likeā¦itās not very empathetic to disregard someoneās feelings because using āgirlā is uncomfortable. Itās kind of putting your feelings above thereās. If you have the opportunity to be kind and affirming, to make someone feel safe and comfortable in the world, why not embrace that? A simple change in your language could make someoneās entire day.
Nobody (including you) should put other peoplesā feeling above your own, as that is an extremely unhealthy thing to do. Being considerate of someoneās feelings and sacrificing your own feelings for someone else are two very different things.
The people I talk to donāt mind the way I talk, and that is how I judge my language. I also make sure that I give them the environment necessary to express their discomfort with my language if they have any.
Do you have any non-gendered alternatives to ādudeā and ābro?ā
I kinda see where youāre coming from, but I wholeheartedly disagree.
You should never put your needs below anyone elseās, but Iād argue that itās very healthy to mildly inconvenience yourself in order to avoid majorly inconveniencing or hurting others. In fact Iād say thatās kind of the entire cornersone of human civilization.
Yes, and every time someone is bothered by my language, I change my language specifically for them, like how I call my transfem friends by their name instead of saying ādudeā, etc.