I mean, mostly, yeah. The issue is, while most people will say dude is gender neutral, it really depends on the person.
Iām trans, I have two friends who call friends dude. One is a woman who I have known for like 5 years and will call everyone and everything dude. When she says it I donāt feel weird about it.
I have another friend who says dude is gender neutral and Iāve known them for about the same amount of time. However, I have never heard them call a woman dude. They say they do, but I our mostly female friend group, I think Iāve only ever heard it towards me.
Thatās really the issue. People will say itās gender neutral but not use it neutrally, and believe me, trans people notice it. Anecdotally, this is how my trans friends view it as well, but take my experience with a grain of salt.
I mean, mostly, yeah. The issue is, while most people will say dude is gender neutral, it really depends on the person.
Iām trans, I have two friends who call friends dude. One is a woman who I have known for like 5 years and will call everyone and everything dude. When she says it I donāt feel weird about it.
I have another friend who says dude is gender neutral and Iāve known them for about the same amount of time. However, I have never heard them call a woman dude. They say they do, but I our mostly female friend group, I think Iāve only ever heard it towards me.
Thatās really the issue. People will say itās gender neutral but not use it neutrally, and believe me, trans people notice it. Anecdotally, this is how my trans friends view it as well, but take my experience with a grain of salt.