Sorry for the super sporadic posting. Still in the process of moving and everything. I am giving updates on my Mastodon and !stamets@lemmy.world if anyone is interested but there’s really no reason to be.
Hope everyone has a fantastic Friday. Live long and prosper, you glorious bastards.
I’m a straight man but once I was in a gay bar as the designated driver and one of the guys there expressed interest in me. It was the one time in my life that anyone ever did that, and I’m not that young. I felt validated.
Ahahaha me (Shy Girl) saving up years’ worth of confidence to overcome anxiety, but waste it ALL on someone who mentions their s/o 30 seconds into the conversation. Every. Single. Time x.X
It’s not wasted, it’s practice!
Don’t let that part of your brain that wants to inhibit you win on this one. You tried, but the dude wasn’t available, so it doesn’t even count! Now you get to try again!
every single time? This happened to me once 10 years ago and I’ve never recovered. There was just the one attempt.
Well you know, sometimes you meet people and there’s a chemistry, and you’re maybe not sure what kind it is.
Before I can advance my interest, I discover they’re off the market anyway. More friendzoning than formal rejection. Not that I mind having friends.
Rejection is a huge win.
Rejection means you tried!
Seek endorphins from the “no” (or the “I have a borlfriend”), if you can… they give you a pat on the back. Feel a little guilty when you waste opportunities, and have to wonder what if I’d asked.
Certain rejection over possible yet unknown acceptance! :)