• sugartits@lemmy.world
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    Okay Dad, now click allow. The “allow” button. There is a button on your screen that says “allow”. Yes, it allows me to vi-- no I can’t until you cli-- yes, the window in the middle of the screen, there is a “allow” and “don’t allow” button— the one on the left, the left one, click that. No, you just sent me another blank email. There should be something in the middle of the scr— yes! That’s it! Click that! … Why did you click “don’t allow”?

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        1 month ago

        He has Alzheimer’s, so maybe yes if that’s the label you want to use, but he can’t help it.

        Within a year we’ll probably have to take his driving license away, that will really hurt as he values his independence greatly. Within the next couple of years he’ll be in a care home. I’d say a year after that he won’t even remember who I am. He won’t remember any of the family, or any of his friends.

        Eventually he’ll have brief moments of lucidity but for the majority of the time he’ll just be talking gibberish and not having a clue what is going on around him.

        Then he’ll not want to eat or drink and he’ll slowly starve himself to death. The staff at the care home will do their best but he’s on a one way trip to a miserable confusing lonely existence and a slow death that we all have to watch as his immune system attacks what is left of his brain and his body eventually gives way, long after “dad” is no longer our “dad” anymore.

        It’s a horrible disease which robs you of your very soul before eventually killing you. As my Mum put it when I explained it to her: “fucking hell… I think I’d rather have cancer”.

        In the meantime, I am trying my best to give technical support for the occasional times that he needs it. Even at his best he wasn’t really “tech savvy” but he did well in his prime, running a local business that allowed about 20 staff to pay their mortgages and have a good life.

        He did well by us and everyone around him, so a little tech support and frustration, whilst also producing a funny anecdote for this little community, isn’t really a big deal.

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          Oh fuck off. You didn’t imply or even suggest that anyone had Alzheimer’s and you made a joke out of it. You suggested that he sent you an email instead of hitting “Allow”. That’s not something that people with Alzheimer’s do. People with Alzheimer’s have memory issues not an inability to read.

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            Alzheimer’s is a lot more than “memory loss” and categorically affects comprehension on every level. Way to show you have no clue what you’re talking about.

            I was making the point that my dad is not an idiot, but is actually quite ill and your dumb insulting comment was not needed.

            But I guess insulting others helps your self esteem. So I was probably expecting too much for you to have a tiny bit of self reflection.

            Edit: just had a quick look through your other comments. You’re a toxic individual and don’t seem to have a kind word for anyone.

            I’m not going to lower myself to responding to you any further. So I’m going to block you now so I never have to read another thing you have to say. I’m sure you won’t be able to help yourself and will respond with more bile, but I won’t be reading it. Good luck.