Sorry this reply is late, just found this sub.

The simplest answer I have is to just show up. Don’t wait to become “perfect” or “better” or whatever else you may be waiting for, just start being there. It’s been said that the biggest gift you can give your kids is your time, so be generous with that gift.

Another thing that I try to do is to just enjoy and appreciate my family. Remind your partner how good they are doing and try to avoid criticism whenever possible.