Also, chips make you fat now.
Eh, I was tired and sad all the time as a kid too. At least now I have autonomy and don’t have to live with crazy people.
I’m guessing you mean directly living because it seems a fair bit have become crazy.
Musta meant share housing with crazy people.
Because we all have to live with crazy people, even more so if you have to work services or retail.
And I though tumblr was bad at reading comprehension.
I feel that there’s language barriers on Lemmy sometimes. Very diverse group here. I didn’t think for a second if you meant “live on this planet with crazy people” or “live in a house with crazy people” - seemed obvious to me the latter is what you meant, but maybe this is expressed differently in Germany or other countries.
I was talking about being a child with no autonomy stuck in a house with my crazy parents.
I know, I know okay that there are many people in bad situations or going through acute events that are terrible, and people with physiological depression but for many other people this negative malaise is self-inflicted. So many people who could be happy are focusing on and amplifying all negative parts of life, doomscrolling online, and then not taking the initiative to socialize or do things that would make them happy. This is reinforced by a culture where it is in vogue to play up your misery, and it turns into a game of one upsmanship.
The average person reading this can actually be happy, have friends, and do things instead of wallowing in a mental cage. I’m begging and pleading with people to make an effort to break out of this.
I wouldn’t call trying to make plans with friends and meet new people then end up being ghosted or ditched as not taking initiative to socialize but alrighty. It’s exhausting, and for nothing to come out of it for months on end makes it seem pointless.
I think what the poster is trying to say is that for most people perspective is a choice and can be changed by making small adjustments to your life. You can also make huge adjustments but most people won’t tolerate changing too fast.
The idea is that instead of the road to your goal being difficult and full of deception, its maybe that the goal itself is unreasonable or incorrect.
There’s a lot of talk about how to achieve ones goals, whatever they are, but not much talk towards setting realistic goals for yourself and being realistic with what you expect to get out of achieving those goals.
Edit to add: more to your point about trying to make friends, its possible that its because the goal doesnt make sense. In my experience, adults dont have time to make friends just for the sake of friendship. It would be more realistic to set a goal of attending some sort of social event or sport consistently for a year where you would be around people enough to develop friendships without any risk.
Also I think these days people looking to meet strangers to make friends are almost indistinguishable from scammers and fraudsters at first, so that could be part of the issue with the relationships you’ve tried to pursue if that applies at all.
I agree, but it’s frustrating to try to change perspective and make some changes while also seeing no results.
I’m in the college age group so I think it’s still somewhat realistic to make friends just for the sake of friends. I know people are busy with classes or work as so am I, but we can’t be THAT busy ALL the time. I probably exaggerated being ghosted but it’s happened so much that it’s infuriating. I know there are times where you just don’t feel like hanging out anymore on a particular day but at least give a raincheck if plans were made.
Maybe it’s also the few friends I have left or it’s the age group, but it’s tiring to just hear “nah hop on discord”. Like at this point I only have online friends left because we only socialize through online and playing video games while we could literally be going out doing something on the weekend. Had a conversation with a couple of them about it and they just see no reason to hangout irl. Maybe in person socializing isn’t important or valued.
I’ve definitely been on both sides of the ghosting thing, its hard to figure out why that becomes the easy choice. Maybe its just that people are hard and staying home alone is easy? Or maybe ghosting the person allows you to avoid any negative emotional consequences in the short term? I suppose you could try to reassure the person you aren’t upset with them.
For me I’ve noticed too that when I want to be left alone is when people won’t leave me be, and when I’m trying to find someone to do something with there is no one, so maybe it has something to do with expectation.
Right, being sad all the time is not a normal part of being an adult. If you are, then make some time to find stuff that makes you happy. I recommend sex, drugs, and rock & roll.
Used to be sad and tired as well.
Ditched unhealthy food. Started running. Started losing weight. Started being active.
I used to sleep 8 to 11 hrs. Anything less and I’d be a wreck. Now I sleep 6hrs a night, even on the weekends and I’m good to go at 6am. It drives my GF nuts.
For me it was literally that “easy”.
I’m sad and tired. I did what you did (not a runner, I prefer lifting, but the point is the same. Eat well and work the body), and physically I’m in the best health of my life but this world is shit and it makes me sad and tired. For me, it is not that simple. No amount of exercise and healthy diet makes me less sad or tired.
Whoever invents a pill to stop physical aging at 25 will be increadibly rich
Or found dead in an apartment, having committed suicide via several shots to the head
I have celiac and it’s amazing how big of a deal being low in one (or more) vitamins can be. I have gotten deficient often enough that I can almost recognize each type of tiredness from my most common deficiencies. Being tired from anemia/low iron is definitely different than being tired from a vitamin b deficiency, for instance. And being simultaneously deficient in vitamins that work together - like calcium and magnesium, or vitamins a, d, e, and k - also feels different than being deficient in just 1 of these vitamins.
When people tell me they crave a lot of certain foods, that’s a sign that their body wants whatever vitamin is in that food. If your body hasn’t tried a lot of other healthier foods, it won’t have learned their nutritional content and won’t crave it. Potatoes (in potato chips) contain small amounts of metals like copper, zinc, lithium, iron. Corn similarly has vitamins, I do not eat much corn so idk what all it has in it.
However, just because you’re getting a tiny bit of zinc from a whole bag, doesn’t make the chips good for you. They come with other nutrients including sodium which are excessive and should be balanced with a good potassium intake (like a bottle of coconut water). Your body isn’t meant to process huge loads of wasteful food, and that comes at a price. Eating more efficiently with more nutrient dense foods is best (especially dark leafy greens which contain chlorophyll which can actually make ATP in your blood stream for basically “free” - free energy).
Last, we all have different genetics. Not all of us need the exact same diet or vitamins. Some of us literally need extra vitamin A (do you have genes from either the north or south pole, such as Russian or Native American? You might want to take slightly extra vitamin A along with other fat soluble vitamins like vitamin D). And every vitamin is like this, some being more serious than others. Some people can’t eat much tyramine without developing possible life threatening brain bleeds and high blood pressure. Olives contain tyramine as does certain types of red wine - many cultures eat these in volume and have no problem but some people just can’t.
“You are what you eat” ended up being real wisdom
I should start taking multivitamins again…
