• Psythik@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I don’t understand. My girlfriend calls women “females”.

    So long as you’re not using it in a disrespectful way, there’s no reason why women can’t be called what they are. What’s next? Getting upset because I call it a vagina instead of a “pussy”?

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      5 months ago

      I’ve never read any internet comment using “female” as a noun for human women that wasn’t problematic.

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        5 months ago

        This is interesting to me because, as a dude in his 40s, I grew up with adults (and even cartoons) saying ‘woman xxxx’ being the pejorative (i.e. damn woman drivers!). It’s been weird to seem to see this flip.

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          5 months ago

          Lol! I forget I’m older. That may also contribute to my comfortability with it!

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          5 months ago

          In addition to what the other reply to you said, I was talking specifically about “female” as a noun.

          “females like xyz” and so on.

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            5 months ago

            That’s true, but the OP’s and my experience is that the adjectival use, like “woman doctor,” was pejorative. I associate it with Greatest and Silent Generation relatives. We changed to say “female doctor,” as it sounded more neutral.

            Now, there’s a movement back, and lots of younger folks now say that the latter is demeaning, and that “woman doctor” is the respectful phrasing. I know it’s essentially arbitrary, and defined by usage, it’s just interesting to see the evolution.

    • DerisionConsulting@lemmy.ca
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      5 months ago

      It’s generally the difference between using it as a descriptor, and a noun. Noun bad.

      Compare “I really like watching the female football game” and “I really like watching the women’s football game”
      “Female” isn’t trans-inclusive, but people aren’t going to look at you weird either way you say it.

      Now compare that to:
      “I really like watching the females play football.” and “I really like watching the women play football.”
      “Females” here makes you sound like you’re getting sexual gratification from watching the players, or that you see them as nothing more than a vagina, “women” sounds like you might like the game.