• wizzor@sopuli.xyz
    link
    fedilink
    English
    arrow-up
    3
    ·
    5 months ago

    Thanks, this entire post makes more sense now.

    Although I gotta ask, at that point is it possible OP also has some issues…?

    • Jerkface@lemmy.world
      link
      fedilink
      arrow-up
      3
      ·
      5 months ago

      Very plausible. Sometimes this happens to people who grow up with family who have cluster b personality disorders. It’s like they’re conditioned to be good partners to people who have it. Ask me how I know.

        • Jerkface@lemmy.world
          link
          fedilink
          arrow-up
          3
          ·
          5 months ago

          Mother had BPD, possibly ASPD, brother had NPD. I have a tendency to attract people who suffered intense childhood trauma.

          • Rolder@reddthat.com
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            1
            ·
            5 months ago

            I’m picturing you going on a first date and just casually asking something like “So, childhood abuse yes or no?”

            • Jerkface@lemmy.world
              link
              fedilink
              arrow-up
              1
              ·
              5 months ago

              Like another comment said, sometimes you can just sense it, but often enough they will just tell me. I have heard so many stories, frequently about sexual assault by a family member, from someone I had just met or barely knew.

              • AngryCommieKender@lemmy.world
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                1
                ·
                5 months ago

                I have a similar thing. People just open up to me, but my parents aren’t abusive. The worst punishment they gave us was to write a research paper on why what we had done was wrong.