Toxic masculinity is bad. Men’s liberation is good. Look up Men’s liberation if you struggle with feeling “manly”.
Sincerely,
A Fucking Combat Infantry Veteran
(For real, patriarchal rules are made up and the points don’t matter)
Oh interesting. I’m also a cis hetero male but very feminist and a bit queer.
For me I’ve never had this push to be masculine since I was young. I would never have been able to fit in in the army or another toxic masculine organisation. Or even being barked orders at, I could not deal with that. I’ve never been capable of being a “team player”. But I have always been OK with being different. But I was not aware of this movement. I will read more about it.
Glad to see you and @Maggoty@lemmy.world fighting against toxic masculinity and for breaking stereotypes, love to see it!
Always glad to spread the idea. And it’s about more than personal masculinity, it’s about looking at the rules society puts around men too. Much like we’re trying to break the stereotypes around women in Feminism, Men’s liberation does that for us.
Just wanted to bandwagon and thank you also. This is basically what I believe and espouse but now I know there’s a broader term! Much appreciated!
Thank you for your fucking service.
Hehe, I like a little satire now and then.
Yeah anyone who demands masculinity of you isn’t worth your time. Focus on emotional maturity and stability, not the bullshit stoicism some people expect of men
That was always just trauma. So much trauma. That was the secret sauce for that stoicism.
Welding is a good trade and plenty of welders are introverts. At the shop I work at, most of the welders are introverts, with one notable extrovert that nobody likes. Welding is a solitary craft due to safety constraints, it’s just you and the part in your weld cell.
You don’t need to be an extrovert to prove yourself. If you want to prove yourself, you could work on becoming a very skilled welder. Learn the methods, master them, pay attention to details, perfect your craft, learn to weld exotic materials, and your introverted self will be revered and paid handsomely for your abilities. None of that requires you to be a loud dudebrochug.
If you’re comfortable on computers, add robot welding to your repertoire. That is the hot new thing, and could make you even more money since your setups will allow you to put out even more parts with less manual labor.
Portraying yourself as a anime kid for one
Nope. Animation is just as valid as if he painted a picture of a screaming man. This right here is part of the problem men have. We can’t have expressive things without someone judging us.
Anime kid. A child. A cartoon. A cartoon child even
If you had watched Evangelion you would understand why the image was relevant.
It is a valid illustration if that is how he sees himself.
To me I see this as a classic struggle many men have in a patriarchal society. Op is constantly wanting to be “manly” through having sex, taking a “manly” job that doesn’t fit with their true self, and feels in order to be a full human they need to be extraverted and with that usually comes a domination mindset.
A great podcast for the lads here who are struggling with that is the “Man Enough” podcast. I felt so seen by it and moments where I was in tears.
Men find themselves in an awkward position of being both the victim and perpetrator of a patriarchal society.
Dude is out there trying new things and getting experience. Once he stops looking for approval from everyone he’ll be much happier
