I’m a wreck… Fuck cancer

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    5 days ago

    No-one is finally dead until the ripples they cause in the world die away, until the clock wound up winds down, until the wine they made has finished its ferment, until the crop they planted is harvested. The span of someone’s life is only the core of their actual existence.

    -Sir Terry Pratchett, Reaper Man

    I am sorry for your loss. May her memory forever climb mountains alongside you.

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    7 days ago

    I put down my best friend of 20 years on October 5th and fuck it’s hard. I’m sorry. You know you’re making the caring decision and loving your dog until the end though, and that is a gift.

    It’s going to be hard. I’m starting to feel like myself again between the moments of deep grief, but I am still fragile and sad and will be for a long time.

    If you ever need comfort from a stranger, feel free to save my name or comment and shoot me a message.

  • gravitas_deficiency@sh.itjust.works
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    Fuck, dude. That sucks.

    I’ve had to go through that, and it’s awful. Just try to remember: you love your pup and made her whole life better, and she loves the fuck out of you for it. Not letting her linger and suffer, while tragic, is simply a final - albeit deeply bittersweet - act of fundamental love.

  • FrostyTrichs@walledgarden.xyz
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    I’m so sorry.

    Words are at their most limiting in times like these. Nothing we say does much to fill the hole that losing such a close and loving friend leaves behind. All I know to suggest is trying to focus on the positive memories instead of the terrible loss, but sometimes that isn’t enough.

    Whether you need an ear to listen or a shoulder to cry on, a place to let go of despair or just a friend to keep your mind busy, we are here for you. Feel free to dm me if you are struggling with things.

    Lean on the strength your best friend has undoubtedly shown in the face of the unknown, and find solace in knowing you are giving them your all in return even when it’s the most difficult. Love is powerful.

  • trevdog@lemmy.world
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    7 days ago

    good dog! I just had to say goodbye to mine at the end of September. It’s the toughest thing.

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    6 days ago

    i had to put down my sweet, loving cat suddenly just this week so my heart goes out to you.

    well it was sudden for me at least, for her she’d probably been in pain for months from the cancer =/ i’m so grateful i could spend time with her until the very end and it sounds like you’ve made some amazing memories with yours.

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    So sorry for you impending loss. I’m currently in the same boat, and it’s rough. The one silver lining is you get to plan it and make sure your buddy is comfortable and isn’t alone.

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        6 days ago

        Me too. If there’s still time, give your buddy a hug from this internet stranger. We set an appointment for mine for tomorrow. It’s so surreal.

  • Jason_Ph03nix@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    My dog died very recently and it tore me apart. Ill always miss her putting her head under my hand to get me to pet her.

    Miss you Lady

  • This is one of the saddest things to go through- I’m sorry for your loss. Just went through the same a couple weeks ago, and I gotta say, being proactive about the grieving process was a huge help. Everyone grieves differently, but I would recommend prioritizing the process- set aside time for yourself and your feelings every day.

    These might help: https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheets/grief/adults

    One of best things my partner and I did was make bracelets out of beads that matched the fur and eye colors of our late cat, and it made it feel like her essence was still around with us. Highly recommend.

    Feel free to PM me

  • Truffle@lemmy.ml
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    This sucks. I am sorry for your absolutely devastating decision, OP. It is so hard and so hurtful to have to choose and yet there is so much grace and love in doing so. I am sending you a hug and the promise that he will be hurting no more❤️