• pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    6 days ago

    I had a… fwb? visit me this weekend and we sat on the couch and I laid my head in his lap and he stroked my hair and I felt cared for and loved and I wished it never happened because going back to loneliness and self hatred is so much worse than just being lonely and miserable the whole time

    How many pounds worth of weighted blankets will it take before I can’t breathe under them

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.worldM
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      6 days ago

      You were cared for once, you can be cared for again. I wouldn’t mind playing with your hair as you rest your head in my lap :3

      Self hatred doesn’t help you in any way. It’s not more rational by simply being mean. You are not inherently bad, even if you do bad things. You can always improve, but you never will unless you let that hatred go. It’s never going to be easy or pleasant all the time, but it won’t be only misery either.

    • erotador@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      6 days ago

      dont worry, you can experience all that again, and not just for fleeting moments, but it wont happen if you give up, so i dont recommend that, dont worry, i believe in you, you will get those cuddles you deserve <3