I’m struggling to figure out how to make friends without having Instagram or any other social media. I have discord but don’t use it much. I see all my acquaintances in discord channels and sharing Instagram posts and stuff. It’s already hard for me to make friends, but I feel like not having any of the traditional social media means I’m not included in any of that stuff.
Do you just accept that Instagram and shit are the way people interact and use it?
How do you make friends with social media?
I think it’s more just that it’s a low stakes way to “hang out” and chat without any commitment or pressure. At least that’s how I see the value
You need to make an effort to put yourself in places where you can meet people. Often this takes the form of finding a community with a common interest. This could be a hobby, a lecture, a course, book club, gardening, etc.
Other places where you meet people can be a workplace, a volunteering effort, social gatherings like listening to a band, orchestra or a play.
You can go to the local coffee shop and spend time there watching people. If you do this regularly, you’re likely to meet people whom you can talk to and interact with.
If you already know people, acquaintances, then organise or participate in activities with them.
Social media is an add-on to life, not life itself.
The way to make friends is essentially finding ways to interact with other humans, preferably in places where you like to enjoy yourself.
Discord is social media. What you need, my friend, are hobbies. Or the meetup app. Or to just go look up events in your area and go to them. Hobbies work because then you can find other people locally who are also into your
fetishhobby.Meetup.com, search some interests, find some groups, go to some events, talk to people and slowly build those connections with those that you click with. Or all that via more general web searching, meetup is just a convenient hub.
Dang. The website said there is no groups or events anywhere at any time within 100 miles of me. What do lmao
Befriend the wildlife
Trash pandas are friends. Got it
Are people you follow and who follow you really friends or is it primarily just about increasing the amount of followers? I’ve never had any social media aside from MySpace, but I consider my friends as family. Sure, I bet a lot of Instagram accounts have more followers than I have friends, but we’re all stoked to know one another and it has nothing to do with appearances.
I’m not talking about random followers. I’m talking about how to keep in touch and get closer to people who you just met. Like sure you exchange numbers, but then what? You might text them to go do an activity. But that’s only every so often.
I guess I just don’t know how it works, and I see everyone exchanging Instagram posts and in group discords and I don’t know how to be included and involved
I text and call my friends just to chat way more often then to hang. It’s definitely a little bit of both, but I stay in touch regularly using signal. I’m an oddity these days for sure, yet it’s still an option and way more private vs social media.
