I don’t hate parents or people who want kids. I have several friend who are trying to have children and I am rooting for them. My one friend just had her first baby and I’m so happy for her. Babies are cool when they aren’t mine and for short periods of time. Like babies waving to me in stores is one of my fave things. Kids just aren’t my thing and never will be.

What I do hate is the doctors who think a woman can’t make choices about her own body just because she has the ability to make a baby. My first gynecologist was downright mean with you unless you wanted a baby. My second gynecologist dismissed everything I told her about my menstrual issues and kept telling me that my future husband would want kids and that I’d end up being a mother. I’m gay and she didn’t acknowledge that. She just kept talking about a man who doesn’t exist. I also expressed to every doctor that if I do, somehow, change my mind, I’ll adopt. My sister was adopted and the whole thing was amazing. We rescued her from an awful situation as a toddler and now she’s flourishing as a young adult.

I’ve spoken to many other women who have experienced the same things I have with doctors. Their issues were dismissed entirely unless they wanted to have children. It’s disgusting that it took me three tries to find a doctor who didn’t seem to have baby fever. I know women who are still looking for a doctor who treats them with the respect they deserve. I recommend my gynecological specialist and the regular gynecologist she works with regularly.