You say you have an overwhelming amount of respect… But somehow that seems to mean something different to you than it does to me. When I have respect towards someone I’m honest with them, keeping something directly relevant to the relationship a secret seems disrespectful to me.

Like, according to what you said so far, it seems like you either reduce/break contact, or you run the risk of having to break contact forcefully once you fall in love and you can’t handle it. Both seem to affect her. Keeping that secret doesn’t allow her to prepare herself or have any possible agency in the matter. To me, that seems disrespectful.

So maybe tell her… exactly this?

I’m definitely one of the ones alienated by the OGL shit. However, since I haven’t had a group since and my hyperfocus on TTRPGs/DnD ended, I don’t actually have any idea what people moved to, and this article talks abstractly but doesn’t mention any examples.

What are some actual systems that encourage ease of DMing, that this article would call “fifth generation TTRPG”?

I don’t really understand what the problem is from your text. Why exactly do you not want this? Seems like you like each other, seems like you wanna be together, the only obstacle is to figure out how to meet each other, which you don’t seem to have talked about, neither here nor with her. Seems to me like that’s the only thing that’s missing, and travel is really not much of a problem this day and age.

So, what is the actual problem? Why do you not want this?

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This comment was adressed at other people giving advice, not for OP.

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Well yeah of course, but you’re generalizing a bit. That’s definitely part of it but the other thing I said is also part of it. Both can be true at the same time, I didn’t presume to cover the whole conflict in one statement.

It’s not really a slippery slope though. Only when people decide it’s a slippery slope is it really one. You can easily decide differently in different cases, i.e. use the tech to prevent spread of a disease but not use the tech to restrict porn.

I’ve never heard of this. Can you please give some kind of context?

My philosophy is: “if everyone behaved like I did, would we have any/this problem?” and if the answer is no, I’m fine.

The thing is that many people see injustice in the world and want to fix it now, which means forcing other people to not be assholes. But the problem with forcing other people to do/think something is that it doesn’t generally work, at least not without causing a massive amount of suffering in the other direction. Everyone generally thinks they’re the good guy of the story, no matter how much evil they do. They think the evil is necessary to stop other, more evil things.

Like for example, Israelis think that Muslims wanna wipe them out, and so it’s only good to wipe these evildoers out first… And exactly the same thoughts happen in the other direction. At this point, it doesn’t matter anymore who started it. Both sides wanna stop the other side from doing more evil, and this attempt to stop is creating more evil.

Doesn’t have to be so severe though. Could just be parents forcing their child to eat their veggies. Eating their veggies is good, and so you might think the parent is doing the right thing of forcing their child to eat it. But, most often, all that happens is that the child will forever hate eating veggies and as soon as it’s away from the parents, never eat veggies again. Until they turn adult and learn for themselves that eating veggies is good, and try to do it, but the trauma of being forced is hard to reverse.

And that example is our constant state of existence with basically everything.

Everyone wants to force everyone else to do/not do something, and even if one side is right, the action of forcefully trying to change someone else usually backfires in some way. Force doesn’t need to be physical force btw, shame (mental pain) is also a kind of force.

I’m not saying you should turn the other cheek to everything. That force should never be stopped with force. I’m just saying that most of the time, you can’t make other people change their ways. But you can always completely change your own ways. And if everyone did that, we’d actually have no problems anymore. But most of the time, people start trying to fix problems in others before they fixed their own, and that is almost a complete waste of energy.

Of course, that philosophy doesn’t stop injustices from happening right now. But it gives a peace of mind in some way. If you are truly convinced that if everyone was like you, the world would be a nice place, then you can be content, at least with yourself.

Honestly, this is only part of the answer, there is more to answering your question fully, but I don’t wanna write more right now. If you want to know more, let me know.

You don’t, I’m saying it would still mostly work. Getting messages as they arrive is nice but not necessary. For example, I personally have all notifications off, and I only see messages when I specifically look for them, no one can reach me instantly. Everyone seems to be missing that we’re talking about degradation here, it degrades, it gets worse with JS disabled. But it shouldn’t straight up not work.

A good example for something that does not work without JS would have been a drawing application like they said, or games, there are plenty of things that literally do not work without JS, but messaging is not one of them. Instant messaging would be of course.

The web interface can already be reloaded at any time and has to do all of this. You seem to be missing we’re talking about degradation here, remember the definition of the word, it means it isn’t as good as when JS is enabled. The point is it should still work somehow.

There’s a difference between “wouldn’t work” and “wouldn’t work as nicely”. That’s what this post is about :D Most websites would still work in the same basic way without js.

requiring JS makes sense on some sites, namely those that act more like web apps that let you do stuff (like WhatsApp

I mean yes, but Whatsapp is a bad example. It could easily use no JavaScript. In the end it’s the same as Lemmy or any other forum. You could post a message, get a new page with the message. Switching chats is loading a new page. Of course JavaScript enhances the experience, makes it more fluid, etc, but messengers could work perfectly fine without JavaScript.

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There’s a difference though between counteracting the spread of a disease and looking at porn…

A lot of men have 0 sex, so you saying you have low sex drive still gives them more than 0 sex. But they would be settling for your amount of sex. If someone else can give them more, they will take that. And probably a lot of people have more sex drive than you. So they will entertain you while they have no other options, but as soon as an option with more sex drive opens up, they are dropping you.

You have to look specifically for people that don’t really want/need sex, it is your obligation to figure that out.

Dating in general is a numbers game, you have to go through a lot of people to get what you want. But you have to know what you want and actively filter for it, if like right now, it seems you basically entertain everything who is friendly to you, you will have a lot of the other side canceling, not you canceling.

To this I want to add personally, death is a normal part of life. If it’s because of old age or humans killing each other doesn’t make incredibly much of a difference to me. As long as life existed there was death & suffering. Of course I’m against unnecessary death & suffering. But I’m asking myself, why would I myself add to the suffering by suffering when I see others suffer and I can only very barely help them?

I recently asked that an old childhood friend of mine and his gf. Obviously, they found it hard to answer and a ‘weird question’. But what they eventually settled upon as answer was “everything, but mainly other people, the current situation of these people, or their own current situation”