MaybeALittleBitWeird

I’m was the same way. I knew deep down for most of my life, but it honestly wasn’t until my late 20’s that I really accepted I was bi. My attraction just presented so differently for men that it was difficult for me to ever sit back and really say, okay yes I’m definitely not straight. That and as you say, we live in a heteronormative world and it’s easier to exist when you don’t go against the grain.

what pronouns work for you?

The answer to that question, regardless of who you’re talking about is always the same. Just ask the person. There’s no overarching answer to this besides that because everyone is different.

The mens equivalent of the kegel muscles will engage you lower abdominal muscles when you strongly contract them. This usually only happens when the pelvic floor is pretty weak and/or the person isn’t very on tune with what their body is doing. It could also have been his sexual form and body movement during the act.

Regarding your last point, exercise in general tends to stimulate the bowels to move.

You have to remember that society is always telling you to live your life in a very specific way. Being an awkward teenager is a period where you’re supposed to be confused and finding things out about the world and being an lgbtq teenager is no different. There’s a surplus of teenage hormones that are new and confusing and you may not know what you want.

For lesbian women specifically, it’s not easy to have the entire world telling you your sexuality is just going to be a phase and that one day a big strong man is going to come along and “fix” you because after all “everyone feels those feelings sometimes.”

Disclaimer: I’m not a lesbian woman, just a bi guy with some experience with being confused about my sexuality.

I second what @imadethis said. My ‘type’ and even sexual preferences present differently between genders. To use your example, I find short redheaded women attractive, but generally am actually turned off by redheaded men in general.

Even without the tits, this is just a great picture. Consider me an enjoyer.

Hey cutie ☺️

Anytime 💜 I love the color palette you’ve got going on for what I can see!

I’m going to just be honest - very extremely rarely will the person on the other side of a gloryhole be a cis woman if you’re not setting up a prearranged meeting(that you’re likely to be paying for). I know you say you’re fine with same-sex or non-cis interactions, but I just want to make sure your expectations are set correctly.

If you’re only interested in watching potential interactions you can probably check out your local adult bookstore(sex shop) and see if they have viewing booths set up in the back as they are the most likely to have booths with double-sided gloryholes.

Aside from your local bookstore you can try checking out holehunter.com to see if there’s anything more discreet locally. There can also be private/personal gloryholes advertised on classified sites like Doublelist or cruising apps like Sniffies.

I don’t know much about dogging, but swingers clubs may fill that more social and voyeuristic void for you as well. There’s usually at least one in any given city, but you’re unlikely to get in without a partner.

Always! That doesn’t even register as a legitimate question to me.

You’ve received quite a few thoughtful and well constructed responses already so I don’t know that I feel the need to add in my two cents for the first part of the question, but I will at least try to add some context for the second part.

Like a lot of places on the internet that involve sex, the ratio of men to women is extraordinarily uneven. I’ve seen numerous women delete their accounts because of the amount of attention they’ve received after posting(in a similar vein deleting content is not easy due to the way federation works). The community of men posting content(aside from just genitalia shots) tends to not receive very much attention and a small number of dedicated users drive most of the interaction.

Even this thread alone has received more responses than the vast majority of all threads on the instance. I don’t mean this in a confrontational manner, but as someone who has been around since this instances inception I guarantee that if this same topic was not posted by an objectively attractive women it would be lucky to only have received a quarter of the attention it has. I will concede though that this is in no small part due to your genuine and thoughtful responses.

A lot of topics also need a large population of users to survive in a general space. To use one of your examples, to find a satisfactory partner for a niche RP topic will likely not be successful. If people don’t find what they’re looking for, they will stop looking. This critical mass of users is just not here yet, if it ever will be.

The community on Lemmy overall is also very techy and chronically online(even worse than Reddit) - a crowd that is not typically associated with high levels of charisma and rhetoric or social skills in general. The overall Lemmy community is also small enough that basically every post reach the Reddit equivalent of “all” or “hot” for those that have NSFW enabled and in general people have not been as nice and as open-minded as a sex positive space requires. The mods do good work, but they are only human.

Things have gotten better over the past year, but it’s not quite there yet. I would like to say that I appreciate you Beth and the wonderful discussion you’ve provoked ☺️

It’s probably not a great idea to post candid pictures of your unconsenting mom in a porn community if you care about being doxxed.

And with you, for even more orgasms!

I’m looking at a lot more than this foxes bush 😇

That going to be tough to find then unless a specific dom(me) content creator suits your famcy. Almost all of the gay content I’ve seen around here is pretty vanilla.

It doesn’t look like the dildo is attached to the mask based on her grip. I think it’s just a suction cup dildo.

As others have pointed out, other than Yiffit.net for furry content and Lemmyf.uk there isn’t much else. There are probably still a few NSFW islands on Lemmy.world left, but most stopped being active. Personally I’d be interested in a kink focused instance if it existed.

It’s interesting to see this question be asked a second time this week at the same time we get a huge influx of Only fans spammers showing up though.

Most forced bi content heavily overlaps with sissy or cuckold content. Depending on where on that spectrum you are maybe that will work for you.

!sissycaptions@lemmynsfw.com

!cuckoldcaptions@lemmynsfw.com

I’m sure there are still a handful of NSFW communities on lemmy.world but I never saw them last very long or remain active. All the one’s I was aware of don’t exist any longer.

I disabled NSFW on my general accounts a few months back because I got tired of seeing the spammers I blocked over here all the time so I can’t help too much for anything new that’s cropped up.

That bot exclusively posts communities that are trending on this instance and doesn’t really answer OP’s question.

Lemmyf.uk - I generally have only seen consistent nsfw content from the !sexmemes@lemmyf.uk and !freakychicks@lemmyf.uk (the latter community kind of died in favor of c/gonewild here though)

Pornlemmy was competing with lemmynsfw during the Reddit exodus, but failed to get a decent user base and it looks like they shut the instance down as far as I can tell.

Yiffit.net - An instance devoted to furry NSFW. The active users are kind of small bunch at this point and the sole admin kind of disappeared because of life circumstances, but it’s still online.