That’s an interesting thought excercise.

I’m not sure patriarchy has much to do with biology, I think it was just luck of the draw.

Copium may be a meme, but it’s an actual defense mechanism, we convince ourselves of reasons to soften the blow

Helps realizing that it’s not that she deserves better but your brain makes up that excuse so it’s easier to dump her having an excuse you can believe in… Well, it helps getting over the impulse, it doesn’t actually help the situation, I don’t think.

Yeah, seeing them as a person seems like a crucial part in that equation.

I feel like the idea that women are otherworldly creatures instead of people and seeing someone being nice to their partner as “the man having tamed a female and convinced her to treat him well” has a lot to do with his problem.

I hate how much that is preserved socially, there’s no good reason why that hasn’t gone away at least a decade or two ago.

If anything I would ask, I mean, is she really your friend if you can’t confide something scary with her?

Dafuq is this meme? civilians are civilians, regardless of the country religion or whatever the duck they’re born in.

That’s amazing and encouraging, I want to hear more stories like this because when my kid grows up I plan on trying to guide him into not being tech illiterate, so far my plan is (more or less, but not exactly) to start him with a crappy but usable computer and give him upgrades he has to work for or tinker for, I feel like I learned the most by trying to squeeze performance and usability out of outdated hardware.

I don’t intend to make him have my passion for computers, my intention is that he’ll have the initiative to Google problems and the curiosity to solve them when it’s not that easy, just having those two can get you 80%-90% there.