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There are different techniques in this painting but this is very “Bob Ross.” Those clouds are incredible though.
There are different techniques in this painting but this is very “Bob Ross.” Those clouds are incredible though.
There are certain songs my child just balls over. There’s one about dinosaurs that Ms Rachel sings. One of the pop type songs on her barbie little people plane. I had to take the batteries out of a zoo train that made music. She doesn’t like Minecraft music. It’s just weird because they are all different kinds of music.
I wanted to share with you what my therapist told me. I was doing the same thing after my child was born. I kept having these terrible thoughts like “what if I trip and drop her and kill her? What if I wake up and she’s not breathing in the morning?” What my therapist told me is that I had to stop thinking about the what if’s. She said that every time I realized I was thinking about those I had to stop and tell myself to stop.
The brain likes to nonstop think and if you start to think about those irrational thoughts all the time it starts to default to those. What she reminded me of something I really read in a Tibetan monk’s book. He talked about how the brain has a primitive side that is like a monkey that just chitters constantly. You have to learn to quiet it sometimes.
So every time you have these what if thoughts, stop and breathe, and tell yourself that “these are thoughts of scenarios that aren’t real and the chances of them happening might be slim.” Yeah, there is a chance they could happen, but you are capable and you will handle them if it comes to that. But most likely, they won’t happen. And you need to change something because these thoughts are not useful or helpful to you.
Something to go along with this, some people will have a “magic word” or gesture they do that goes along with this. When they realize they are thinking these thoughts they will say “banana” or something or snap their fingers. Whatever they use, it signals their brain to immediately stop thinking that way and move on. I tend to say “I don’t give a shit!” when I start thinking like that.
I know it’s tempting to think “but it’s still possible they will happen, if I prepare then maybe I can stop it.” But it’s not worth worrying about all the time. I have life insurance so my family is covered if I pass. I wear tennis shoes when I carry my daughter when we go out the front door. I keep the floor clean so I don’t trip. I do things that can actually make a difference. Worrying about those things constantly won’t.
I hope you find some peace with this. Anxiety is a bitch. I know this thing my therapist told me to do didn’t fix everything, but it helped immensely. It’s one step in the right direction, one step towards progress, and mental health is one of those things you need to combat one little step at a time.
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Feeding deer is illegal in some places. In Pennsylvania it’s illegal because of the wasting disease that is going through the population. You’d be doing the deer a favor if you called the game warden and reported if it is illegal in your area.
When got dogs years ago I never wanted anything I couldn’t pick up on my own in an emergency. That dog looks like a team lift situation.
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