It’s difficulty it’s what makes the game so great. Unfortunately, the general public won’t put the effort in to fully enjoy it. I found it by chance about 3 years ago and it’s gotten me through some times. It’s got more soul than everything else out there IMO. Doesn’t matter of its underrated by the public. Those of us who know, know it’s worth. It’s made for us, not those who wouldn’t appreciate it.
Difference in what: chance of pregnancy, std protection, orgasm rate/intensity, clean-up, intimacy/trust… There’s a lot of variables at play and answers will vary based on every woman and her life experiences.
I’m a white straight cis-woman who hates my hair and would buzz cut if it were more socially acceptable. It’s not a gender thing; it’s a tactile-sensory thing. I dislike it on my neck and face and hate the cost and experience of monthly maintenance to keep a cute pixie cut. A good hairstyle (by good I mean one you feel good in) definitely matters. I’m doing my hair longer now to get it in a pony tail. Don’t love it at all, but while it’s was growing out I felt frumpy and depressed. I would feel more confident if I could buzz mine without this stigma. If I were more courageous I would but the last time I had it very low people were judgy and to me it’s wasn’t worth the reactions.
But I don’t think your post is actually about the hair cut. There’s a lot of feelings you both your ends on what it means and what you think it means but may not. A healthy relationship IMO needs to talk about these openly. Even if you find you’re growing in different directions, if you love her, try to support her being authentic to herself. You may find your relationship can be stronger for it.
The supervisor/manager doesn’t want someone who knows more working under them. Puts their position into question. It’s better for them to hire someone who makes them look vital.