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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • So I’m not Trans but I live with anxiety. And I’m supportive of this entire community. I can’t imagine the kind of anxiety some of you experience, but at least I can offer some advice.

    That anxiety is one of your best allies and worst enemies. It’s told you for your entire life that something is deeply wrong with you, and now you’ve figured out why… but that doesn’t mean the habit of being anxious is gone, NOR is there no reason to be anxious.

    You have a habit of being anxious, so try recognizing when you fall into that pattern of behavior. Breathe deeply. Look around you. Keep grounded.

    My personal example goes back to the Obama / McCain presidential campaign, and my negative self talk was fucking terrible. Constantly telling myself I should end this rather than fight.

    And I read somewhere “How long would you stay friends with someone who talks to you the way you talk to yourself?”

    I made a serious effort to change “I should kill myself” into “I should kill John McCain.”

    I didn’t dislike the man but wouldn’t have voted for him. But I hated myself, so inserting that into my negative self talk helped me disrupt it.

    Dunno if this can help you or not. You’ll need the therapy, medication, and yeah, you’re likely on more than one spectrum. That’s okay because you are who you are and that is valid.

    I’m 50. I’m weird. I’m likely autistic, but why test it? I’ve experienced dysphoria and still do. I’m obese and not sure if it extends past not liking being this way.

    But I also like my life. I’ve built a network of friends and allies. And I’ve worked to expand that network.

    Breathe deep. You’ve got this. And you’ve got time to find your family. I hope it can still include your parents.








  • There’s no punishment, they’re telling him that if he wants early release and intends to perform, that the content of his performance be reviewed ahead of time.

    Because he would never have been able to have that performance AT ALL if still incarcerated.

    He is asking for early release and it is being granted with certain restrictions.

    People on probation get sent back when they break laws, violating the terms of that probation. This guy hasn’t gotten to probation yet and is more restricted.

    I see your point though, and it would be double jeopardy if they fully released him while continuing to punish him in other ways. That just isn’t what’s happening here. He’s trying to get out early.








  • You’d need to watch it through to understand. (And I’m not telling you to do that.)

    It’s about troubled people trying to build themselves into something more, and what it can cost you in the moment.

    You see a dozen people screaming at each other and yelling Chef - I see a family trying to work through their issues, one of those being the toxicity of families, while being honest and showing each other love and respect.

    My wife also loves Schitt’s Creek and I can’t stand the shallow, one-note characters… but that’s because I haven’t put in the time to get to know them and see how they grow and change.

    A lot of shows are like this, and it’s totally okay to bounce off of them if they don’t resonate with you.

    But I love this one. The Bear is great fun.