Not sure if you saw the meme though.

Yeah I definitely saw the meme alright. From within my little bubble… while riding public transport. I had to contain my laughter so hard it hurt. The censorship just made it even better. Also definitely a mood I’m not unfamiliar with.

I really want to have girl and trans girl friends irl. I want to be around fem people that can maybe help me with girl stuff like fashion, and trans girl stuff like passing. So in the hypothetical, I’d probably want trans girl friends first.

Yeah I definitely get that. I feel like making trans girl friends is the safest way to get into that stuff because at the very least you’re sure they won’t have a wildly unpredictable reaction to the “hey, BTW I’m trans” revelation (depending on where you are with respect to transitioning of course). I definitely feel like I could use some real life trans girl friends, even if it were just to express myself more freely like I do on here. The big issue is actually finding them when you’re not ready to commit to something like going to local support groups.

So sorry to hear about your social circle breaking down. Sounds like it is for the best though, and I’m willing to bet any new friends you’ll gain will probably be better for you in the long run. I’ve been through a similar situation where I’ve pretty much not retained any friendships growing up. Every friend I’ve made since has been great so far, even though I still don’t maintain many friendships. Bottom line is there’s always hope, just gotta find the right people.

I do admit, the title is actually kinda clickbaity in hindsight. Probably could’ve done better.

You really need to see Her if you haven’t yet. Like seriously.

Went to IMDB to look it up and the front page featured a spotlight of the new Joker movie (starring… you guessed it!). Movie seems interesting, definitely going to watch sometime soon!

• Sexuality: Yes lol.

Sometimes less is more. xD

I could use some girl friends irl, or just friends in general.

Yeah, no harm in making some friends. Issue is just “where do you start?”, dream is to be magically adopted into a nice friend group, but things just don’t work like that usually. Or at least they don’t when you’re sober.

Hypothetically, if you had unlimited options with infinite success rates, what kind of friends would you add to your social circle first? Girl friends, guy friends, trans friends, enby friends, neurodivergent friends, nerd friends, or any other brand of friends I haven’t listed?

Would definitely offer you my friendship application! If you feel like chatting, DM me and I’ll send you my matrix details.

Nah, society is just a bunch of idiots smashing rocks together, and we all stare at the ones with the biggest or the shiniest rocks. That does not mean your enjoyment of playing with sticks is invalid.

And this is in no way an attempt to put people into discrete boxes. The body might fit for most, but then there’s the pesky tail that sticks out. It’s those quirks that make us unique that I’m after here, and testing the limits of your model is one way to do it.

The beauy of n-dimensional space is that you can just add dimensions if you feel like you’re being projected into lower-dimensional space and details get lost in translation.

But there’s also the thing where the act of taking a measurement affects the thing being measured, so “n-ball of uncertainty” is perfectly fine!

How does that work if you’ve only been a hot girl for half of your life? Asking for a friend of course.

As a model for infinitely unique human characteristics that can be plotted along several different dimensions, the vector representation makes a lot of sense.

But as with anything that models reality, some of the nuance is lost because we can’t feasibly infinitely detail the model for it to still be a useful representation.

So no, you’re not crazy for framing gender as a vector space, you’re just a huge nerd. 😇

(Edit: Now complete the assignment! [glares at you from a distance])

Probably not the person you might want answering this, but I’ll share my two cents anyway:

I believe men are somehow shit outta luck if not conforming to the strong, tall, muscular, athletic and handsome ideal that seems to be peak masculinity. Although there seems to be an improvement on that front. Further normalising the androgynous look is going to help a lot of transmasc people feel less anxiety about passing. Not in the least because some of these aspects about the general beauty standard for men are unrealistic, even for cis men.

As for me, I’m more than happy to contribute to normalise the androgynous look. I’ve never been happier with my appearance than since I’ve been experimenting with incorporating more feminine traits. Growing my hair out, getting a more feminine haircut, dyeing my hair, braiding my hair, removing body hair, styling eyebrows, that sort of thing. Oh, and most important of all, just doing all of this while never elaborating on it. It’s always just “hey this is my new thing, I will not be taking questions on this”.

I feel like men should not be denied those sorts of thing while still being considered men. And all of us should be free to pursue our own beauty standards. Now to make society submit to those truths…

Yeah that’s a good point. That’s what I would call intelligent design. Take that, creationists!

The “shouldn’t” aspect is more directly applicable to different kinds of kinks or fetishes. Anyone who has experienced what the… uh [checks notes]… “fun button” has to offer will probably tell you that the whole situation is not a coincidence.

Or so I’ve heard… (they’ll buy that, right?)

Hahah thanks for the advice! I’m not really worried about dating. I wasn’t kidding about these qualities being endearing to me though. So I guess you can count that as proof that someone out there will like you for who you are?

Yeah, that doesn’t sound like I’m hitting on strangers on the internet, right?

Not going to lie, this pushes most of my buttons. Now I need one… Where can I get one?

When I say taboo, I mean in the naughty sense. As in it feels kinky because you don’t understand why it turns you on, and you know it shouldn’t, but it does anyway.

But hey, it’s not for everyone, and that’s okay.

Yeah, you aren’t obligated to like anal. And there are several reasons for (not) wanting to do it.

You’re not even required by international sexual law to be even remotely interested in sticking your dick in anything. You do you, but be safe when you do!

But just for context, for most people who engage in anal (both giving and receiving end), the feeling of taboo is part of the fun.

As it turns out, grilling is also for everyone. You don’t have to look like Hank Hill to enjoy a good grill.

Yeah, was about to say if the dream is driving Hotwheels cars across any breasts, why not grow your own?

If it has to be someone else’s, your solution sounds reasonable.