SigmarStern

And of those 30 people no one said “Are you sure? Because if you are not, don’t do it.” I mean, I believe you, but that’s cruel. There’s no magic instinct thing that will come over every parent immediately, once they hold their child for the first time. And those people should have known this! Still, they encouraged you to do one of the toughest and life altering things possible and promised you, that you would love it. You won’t. Maybe you never will.

But you can still love your kid, even if you don’t like being a parent. I know fathers who didn’t want to be a parent, but they did their best regardless and now love their kids very much. They still loathe being a parent though.

First year is the toughest in my experience. It gets better. It will never get easy. Find other parents with similar experiences. You are absolutely not alone in this.

I was a goth in my youth and they were among the more controversial bands. They could be just edge lords or Nazis. The guys that listened to them turned out to be Nazis, so there’s that.

Maybe a “Death in June” band shirt. Which makes things … well… I dunno. Probably not better.

My father taught me that song as a kid:

Warte, warte nur ein Weilchen, bald kommt Haarmann auch zu dir, mit dem kleinen Hackebeilchen, macht er Schabefleisch aus dir.

But since he went to an English school, he also taught me English songs and nursery rhymes and I am having so much fun at therapy.

I’d disagree. We are definitely not rich. All they ask for, is that you can prove that you are able to support yourself. If you have a job, that’s enough.

I used to live in Berlin and while it’s not perfect, it has a vibrant LGBTQ+ scene and I’d say it’s still much better than the US.

I know. I live here. Should have said “EU and some other countries in Europe that are technically not in the EU” but I didn’t think about it.

Everywhere in the EU is probably more safe than the US. We have pretty good protection for trans people and we all speak English (well, most of us). You could try Switzerland https://www.eda.admin.ch/countries/usa/en/home/visa.html and I suggest going to Bern as it’s quite liberal. Excellent health care system. Expensive though, but also good wages. Germany is cheaper and in the bigger cities you’ll be just fine. Good luck!

Don’t forget “Ja!” https://tse1.mm.bing.net/th?id=OIP.zFtYRskRiRhbki-Tbz2qgAAAAA&pid=Api

Fair. Ich habe noch in Erinnerung, wie wir in der Metro deutlich günstiger Großpackungen einkaufen konnnten. Aber ich kenne nicht die Umstände und denen der Kiosk einkaufen muss.

Den Punkt verstehe ich auch nicht. Sollte die nicht im Großhandel viel günstiger sein? Und Pommes ebenfalls?

Not a linguist, but a German. As far as I know, this is correct. One dialect has become standard or high German and everything else is considered a dialect.

Swiss German is a completely different beast and here no dialect has become the defacto standard. But German is only one of the four official languages of Switzerland.

Coffee-Cola was/is awesome!

Since moving to Switzerland a year ago I fell in love with ice tea. But I just buy the cold brew tea from Aldi and add a bit of sirup, mint and lemon rind.

You can also just sit there and wait until everyone you ever bonded with gets diagnosed. It’s fun to listen to them explaining how the process went and slowly coming to some realizations about yourself.

Exactly! I mean, my son has an autism diagnosis, and my wife has ADS, and my best friend has both, and I work in a field where almost everyone is diagnosed with something, but surely I am normal, because no one diagnosed me. Yet.

Logseq is the best note taking app for me. And a lot of my programmer/adhd colleagues. I cannot keep order in my notes and logseq does it for me. It’s so essential for my workflow that I have a monthly donation to the project set up.

I have multiple different graphs/vaults/whatever synced by simply storing the markdown files in a synced folder and I never had any issues. The new version of logseq is supposed to use a database and syncing, afaik.

If you don’t have a subscription for dropout.tv already, get one. It’s worth every penny. This episode was a masterpiece.

Ray-Ban is no longer an american brand.