I just want to inject something here.

This community and others like it exist on blahaj, because this instance focuses on the needs of trans and queer folk first and foremost. And so, trans and queer folk expressing honestly held opinions, are given space to do so.

I’ve had a chat to the lead mod of that community to address the way moderation is communicated, but I don’t plan on telling them what they can communicate. These folk are going to experience the results of the election first hand too, so I’m not going to tell them that they’re not allowed to deal with the situation in a particular way.

We have a group for armed queers here too. I’m strongly anti gun myself, but this group too is run by queer and trans folk with genuinely held beliefs trying to deal with a world that is turning against us more and more. I want them to have space that is explicitly inclusive and protective of their needs, even if I don’t agree with them, because trans solidarity is the goal.

when you report someone, who receives the report? Mods on my instance? The mods of the specific community I’m reporting from?

When a report is made, it goes to three instances.

1. The instance of the person making the report
2. The instance of the account being reported
3. The instance of the community in which the content was posted

Each instance only gets a single copy of the report and that report can be actioned by the admin of the instance the report is on, or moderators of the community. Only a single report is generated for each instance even if it meets multiple criteria, and it is one report per instance, not one report per admin/moderator. Marking a report as complete on one instance does not mark it as complete on another instance.

If a report leads to content removal, that removal will only federate if the reported content is removed by a moderator of the community, or by an admin of the instance that hosts the community or the user. If removed by any other admin, the removal doesn’t federate to other instances, and is purely removed for local users.

Both? Which is to say, after an amazing start, it went downhill when it was sold to yahoo. It suffered there for years. These days, its owned by SmugMug and is improving, but still isn’t what it used to be

Another language. It changes the way you see the world

Yep. Conservative opinions are definitely becoming more common across lemmy… I’ve had so many "I’m not transphobic, but… <insert transphobia>’ type comments to moderate in the last few weeks

As a vulva owner, for me, the big win with the bidet isn’t the butt.

Either way though, the goal is to get clean with water, instead of a dry piece of paper, and then use either toilet paper or a dedicated towel to dry down the now clean area.

Just like with a shower. You don’t clean yourself with the towel. You get clean with water, and then dry with a towel

At the moment, fish doesn’t know what to do with run0. When that changes, I’ll start using it :)

Yep, we will be!

I own my computer. But on Windows, it doesn’t feel like that…

All I’ve got is anecdotes, but as I understand it, trans women are less likely to get prostate cancer in the first place. Personally, I don’t know any trans women that have prostate cancer, and given how many older trans women I know, that suggests it’s less common than you’d expect in cis men.

However, it could fit that those of us who do get prostate cancer are at a more severe level before it’s detected. In my years in the trans community, the only times I’ve learned of trans women with prostate cancer is when it’s been advanced. But those are all second hand stories and blogs/news articles etc.

Here’s a Mara and baby Mara in Argentina

Maras are pretty flighty, but if they’re used to people, yeah

The opening sentence of that journal article feels off…

“Among people with prostate cancer, transgender women receiving estrogen are more likely to present with high-grade disease vs cisgender men, suggesting potential delayed diagnosis”

Given that trans women have smaller prostates (a protective factor) and lower testosterone (a protective factor) and that estrogen therapy is the leading treatment for men with prostate cancer, it feels like quite an assumption to state that lower overall presentations of high grade cancer are potentially an indication of an increased risk of high grade cancer…

Here’s me in the “other” category

Soda Stereo from Argentina, and Monsieur Periné from Colombia

That’s a Mara. They’re the cutest things! And the little babies are even cuter!

I came out just over 7 years ago, so people have had quite a bit of time to adapt.

My mother started at 2. Now she’s 1 in intent, but 1.5 in practice.

My kiddo started at 2, but has since gone through their own journey of queer self discovery, and is now a loud and proud 1.

My ex (the kiddo’s other mother) and I were broken up for many years before I came out. We don’t get on, but even so, she was instantly supportive of my transition and remains so to this day. She started at a strong 1 and is still a 1.

My grandmother, who was in her late 90s when I came out started at a 2. She has since passed away.

Other than that, I don’t have much family in my life. My father passed before I transitioned, and aside from funerals, I don’t interact with my cousins or aunts and uncles. If I had to rate them as a group, there somewhere between 3 and 4, but I don’t really know, because I basically have no interaction with them.

but I kinda forgot about it

Me too! Can you drop me a DM with the details again, and I’ll poke Kaity to have a look :)

We’re trying to get some organised :)

As long as they’re not ignoring the instance guidelines, I’m not going to get involved in issues regarding moderation of individual communities. If people are unhappy with the mods, they will just go elsewhere. I’m not in the business of telling moderators how to run communities they’re more connected to than I am.

If the community or its mods are ignoring the instance community guidelines though, then I want to know about it, because that will get dealt with.