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Owner and proprietor of the Demonologic Porn Shed (!demonologic@lemmynsfw.com).

Lesbian or lesbian-adjacent, and a pretty girl enthusiast. A “they” or “she” – I guess I’m a themme?

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  • I really wonder what the filters are doing to beautiful girls’ mental state.

    Nothing good. Kids These Days™ (I’m an old bat so everyone under ~25 is a kid 😅) have it really tough when it comes to appearance, and the pressure isn’t mainly on just women and girls anymore either – there’s a lot more pressure on guys too nowadays.

    Younger generations have gotten many things way more right than us Gen X’s, but sadly many things are a lot more fucked up too. I’m so glad that when I was a teen smartphones weren’t a thing, let alone influencers, filters (literal airbrushing doesn’t count!), etc. etc., and “social media” was BBSs, Usenet, and IRC














  • I don’t think NSFW content is bad, I feel like in fact having different sections for NSFW posts makes community bigger because it attracts people.

    Yeah definitely! Porn / erotica has been a huge factor in the popularity of the whole internet, too. Like you said in your post, currently lemmynsfw is mainly specifically porn; it’s an “easier” format than more conversation-based stuff because Lemmy really doesn’t have critical mass yet and the majority of people just mainly lurk and don’t comment / post (like it is with any social network.) Contrast this to the fact that there’s smutty chat subreddits that have more users than the entirety of Lemmy 😅

    I did notice that a lot of people have “sex is dirty” mindset (elsewhere not here) and then they can get pretty rude and underhanded like anything goes because basically they associate sex with something dark and secretive.

    Ugh I get what you mean. Weirdly enough it feels like younger folks are a bit more in that mindset than us old farts, like attitudes have gotten more conservative instead of less when it comes to sexuality. Well, at least partially, there’s good things too of course.

    But yeah anyhow, could be that your best bet right now could be to try and be active on !chat@lemmynsfw.com (or others like it, I actually don’t know what the options are here for that stuff) like you’ve already done, try to strike up conversations? Might be a bit of a grind but you already managed to “activate” people a bit which is great!


  • This could just as well have been written by me. Especially the bit about how “people who know themselves and are unapologetically authentic about it are just lovely” really resonates with me; one of the benefits of being middle aged is that people do tend to sort of find themselves as they get older, and just be way less stressed about how they seem to others.


  • Benefits of being a lesbian 😅

    But yeah, lemmynsfw definitely can be a bit of a sausage fest. The Fediverse and Lemmy especially are niche enough that a lot of the users are techy types (like yours truly, heh) which does tend to still bring a gender bias with it.

    If you have the spoons for it, you could occasionally post the kind of stuff you’d like to see? It might feel like shouting into the void since yeah, not a lot of women here (probably more gay guys), but every change has to start somewhere, right?

    Might have to create and mod communities though, which is a whole 'nother can of worms if posting isn’t restricted



  • I looked at lemmy-ui’s source yesterday and I noticed it limits concurrent uploads to 4 at a time, so I guess that could be a good tactic for you as well?

    Just make sure you don’t wire each file upload’s completion handler straight to outputting the ![](...) markdown like lemmy-ui does 😀 Having the images in the post / comment be in the same order as they were in the file picker would be much nicer than having them end up in the order they complete in.

    Thanks again ❤️