

Did you read any of what I wrote? I didnāt say that human interactions canāt be transactional, I quite clearlyāat least I thinkāsaid that LLMs are not even transactional.
EDIT:
To clarify I and maybe put it in terms which are closer to your interpretation.
With humans: Indeed you should not have unrealistic expectations of workers in the service industry, but you should still treat them with human decency and respect. They are not their to fit your needs, they have their own self which matters. They are more than meets the eye.
With AI: While you should also not have unrealistic expectations of chatbots (which i would recommend avoiding using altogether really), itās where humans are more than meets the eye, chatbots are less. Inasmuch as you still choose to use them, by all means remain politeāfor your own sake, rather than for the botāThereās nothing below the surface,
I donāt personally believe that taking an overly transactional view of human interactions to be desirable or healthy, I think itās more useful to frame it as respecting other peopleās boundaries and recognizing when you might be a nuisance. (Or when to be a nuisance when there is enough at stake). Indeed, i thinkānot that this appears to the case for youāthat being overly transactional could lead you to believe that affection can be bought, or that you can be owed affection.
And I especially donāt think it healthy to essentially be saying: āhave the same expectations of chatbots and service workersā.
TLDR:
You should avoid catching feelings for service workers because they have their own world and wants, and it is being a nuisance to bring unsolicited advances, itās not just about protecting yourself, itās also about protecting them.
You should never catch feelings for a chatbot, because they donāt have their own world or wants, it is cutting yourself from humanity to project feelings onto it, it is mostly about protecting yourself, although I would also argue society (by staying healthy).
But code that doesnāt crash isnāt necessarily code that works. And even for code made by humans, we sometimes do find out the hard way, and it can sometimes impact an arbitrarily large number of people.