I’ve never seen or heard anybody tell men not to trauma dump. On the contrary, I’ve only seen people tell men that they should open up and be comfortable with their emotions.
I know it might be strange to think, but not even close to a percent of women frequent those spaces.
Do you really think thats where youll find how the average woman feels?
Those terms are just as foreign to the average woman as they are to us. If you dont believe me, go look at the male equivalent spaces to those you listed. See if the men posting there represent your views well.
To think that such opinions are reaching only a small percentage of people in this day and age is just naivety.
Secondly, I’m not from the ‘West’. The cultural divide between traditional and modern is much more stark where I’m from than it is in the ‘West’.
Which means, if I want to date an independent woman in my country, it is most likely that she holds such views influenced by social media. Which means I have even fewer chances here than I’d have outside.
I have not noticed this to be gendered. They skipped straight to telling me as a woman not to trauma dump, no one ever wanted to hear about my emotions to begin with.
I also noticed how people on the internet (mostly women) used to say men should open up and be vulnerable.
Now they tell not to trauma dump. Funny.
Who tells you that?
The people in the internet.
I’ve never seen or heard anybody tell men not to trauma dump. On the contrary, I’ve only seen people tell men that they should open up and be comfortable with their emotions.
Ok, should I give screenshots as proof or are you willing to go to askwomen/twox/or any other women centric places and see for yourself?
Are you going to those places to talk about your problems? I think you might be misunderstanding the point of those communities.
Nope. That’s just women discussing amongst themselves or answering questions about red flags or relationships.
Other terms I learnt are: love bombing, breadcrumbing, benching.
I know it might be strange to think, but not even close to a percent of women frequent those spaces.
Do you really think thats where youll find how the average woman feels?
Those terms are just as foreign to the average woman as they are to us. If you dont believe me, go look at the male equivalent spaces to those you listed. See if the men posting there represent your views well.
It’s not just reddit. It’s on every social media.
To think that such opinions are reaching only a small percentage of people in this day and age is just naivety.
Secondly, I’m not from the ‘West’. The cultural divide between traditional and modern is much more stark where I’m from than it is in the ‘West’.
Which means, if I want to date an independent woman in my country, it is most likely that she holds such views influenced by social media. Which means I have even fewer chances here than I’d have outside.
I have not noticed this to be gendered. They skipped straight to telling me as a woman not to trauma dump, no one ever wanted to hear about my emotions to begin with.