Different people have very different lives, so I’m interested to hear the range of replies.
Do you only get sexual in a monogamous relationship? Do you use ‘hookup apps’ or specialized apps? Do you meet people at events? Casual events, special-interest clubs, hobby clubs? Are you involved in a fetish community? Do your friendships become sexual? Do you party at dance clubs? Do you pay at a brothel? Do you get approached unexpectedly in public? Do you look for partners intentionally or do you meet partners incidentally?
Where indeed? I’m pansexual, currently leaning more gay, nb-presenting male with a thin frame. If I had no standards, I could probably find some bear in the area. Scruff is another gay app, and I managed to meet someone through that who looks like my type but isn’t much of a top and didn’t want to meet again. I’m also on a BDSM-focused gay site called Recon, where I’ve been engaged in a multi-month ongoing conversation with this shy pantyhose fetishist who eventually wants to try things. I avoid Grindr because I’m not looking for disposable experiences.