I’m a pan non-binary AMAB and I like femboys and anything BDSM.
I share pictures sometimes, but not because I enjoy swapping pictures or anything. It’s more of a way to get feedback/affirmation. I don’t think I would enjoy another long-distance relationship with just swapping pics. Some people do, and I don’t judge. Text-based roleplay is interesting, but I think sites like Umbra have absorbed that community.
University of Oklahoma has an organization and there are probably more at other colleges in the state. I can attest to the difficulties of online dating. There may also be LGBTQ resources in your town or nearby, like a social gathering at a community center or something.
Replace him with a suitable substitute on some dating platform. If you’re in a major city, that shouldn’t be difficult. If you’re out in the sticks like I am, alcohol may be your only friend. Maybe get a job or attend a college in a place where gays can be gay.
I know. I’m privacy conscious and have software dev and IT training. I’m a lot better than most zoomers in that regard. I’m just hoping that my niche actually exists in the real world and isn’t purely a rhetorical construct invented to get underage queers to join discord servers and talk about identity issues. I would hope glowies have better things to do than infiltrate the gay community. I would also hope that the liminal space of looking like a girl but not identifying as one is a common shared experience. My litmus test is age, so the more 40something and 50something femboys and sissies I see, the more secure I am in the label’s legitimacy. Do girly boys hold a special place in your heart?
My sexy fun for the year seemed to start and end in July. It seems I can’t get much, but that doesn’t stop me from trying. I brought a gay friend to a BDSM group a couple days ago, and he politely observed and listened to people talk. Very quiet and non-confrontational sort of guy. I don’t think he’s interested in me.
I’ve also taken an interest in niche dating sites - made an account on Duolicious and managed to make contact with a metrosexual 24-year-old, but he’s so incredibly shy and reserved that I don’t think it’s going anywhere. I also found a site called Sissy Island, but they’re having server errors. If I could date only in femboy and sissy circles, especially if the crowd skews more to Gen Y, I couldn’t ask for more. My sexuality is abnormal, and I guess I’m going against the grain by avoiding people I’m not attracted to, since the standard for my generation seems to be having no standards.
To be the webcam on that netbook <3
Where indeed? I’m pansexual, currently leaning more gay, nb-presenting male with a thin frame. If I had no standards, I could probably find some bear in the area. Scruff is another gay app, and I managed to meet someone through that who looks like my type but isn’t much of a top and didn’t want to meet again. I’m also on a BDSM-focused gay site called Recon, where I’ve been engaged in a multi-month ongoing conversation with this shy pantyhose fetishist who eventually wants to try things. I avoid Grindr because I’m not looking for disposable experiences.
I’ve been in femboy mode for the past 6 months, and it has not delivered results. Unless you count some negativity from an old lady on a bus. I’ve only been using nail polish for a couple weeks, and I did get a positive comment on that. Unfortunately, I’m tall and have stress lines on my face, so it’s hard for me to feel cute, and I get into a negative feedback loop because of that.
I’m into girly boys or boyish girls who are absolute sadists, or switches. My sexuality is BDSM-informed. That means I talk about rape and torture a lot. To me it’s all fun and games because I’ve never had the opportunity to get raped, never had a relationship last longer than 2 years, never talked to a doctor about HRT despite me desperately trying to avoid the label of “man”. I’m looking for someone to enable my depraved femininity.
I’m somewhat surprised you date females. I’m sure you were a very good slut. Does she lock you up when she’s done with you?
2 weeks ago I met a chastity bottom and stayed the night at his place. Ate his beautiful ass that tasted like strawberries. He’s a gorgeous femboy type who takes good care of himself, and looks younger despite being my age. Too bad he ghosted me.
Now I’m in touch with a similar type of guy, potentially to meet in the next week or two. Frustrated that I can’t make it an ongoing thing with my exact type. This new guy wants me to piss on him and calls me “master”, so maybe he’s kinky enough to not get scared off.
It’s all in my various profiles. I’m a male or non-binary pansexual leather bottom. I focus on what I like more than what I dislike, and there’s a lot more of the former than the latter. There is enough negativity in my life outside of sexuality that I don’t need to ruin sexy times with intrusive thoughts.
so that everyone knows i’m still cis tho
I’m still figuring out what a femboy is, and to me it seems to be just a new term for a male or enby-identifying transvestite or girly boy. In my experience as a half-slavic 31-year-old in the rural northwest, when I crossdress nobody knows my gender but everyone assumes I have a dick. I could be trans, it could be performance art, it could be laundry day. (Why the short shorts and mascara? Must be a fag.) All queers are the same to folks outside of this community, so to them your choice of gender matters less than how good you look overall.
I shave with specific brands of disposable twin-blade safety razor (Dorco, BIC, whatever gets you closest without cutting the skin) and shave gel. Gel seems to work a lot better than Barbasol cream.
You can also use hair removal cream for touch-ups, though my facial hair is unfortunately a lot tougher than hair removal cream alone can handle.
I hear that epilators (basically like an electric razor that goes a little deeper) work well, at least for body hair, though I haven’t tried one yet.
I hear that an epigenetic medication (not HRT) reduces the thickness of non-scalp hair to the genetic level you would have without androgens, but other factors like a history of shaving and your specific ethnicity may reduce the de-hairing effect. Many cis women shave.
As a pansexual BDSM bottom I’m always looking for weird things. The thing that stuck out the most to me was the girl that wanted me to kill her. I did not oblige. We were very drunk.
It was interesting. He’s such a cutie. He said he’d message me later, but he already has 2 partners who he’s been with for a while. I never did fuck him with my dick, mainly because I felt bad about not being able to take much of a pounding myself. He said I might have a hemorrhoid. I hope I get to go another round with him. I hope he still likes me.
Thanks man, I feel incredibly lucky. He messaged me this morning and I made a Ghostbusters reference that probably made me sound like a retard. I’m so far removed from a power top I’m afraid I might have the same problems with him as I do with girls. I could fuck his ass, maybe fist him, choke him a little, but all the while I’d be in awe of how cute he is and doing infantile things because really I want a cutie to top me. I hope there aren’t other misunderstandings. I’m not a chastity bottom and I do like dicks, but I’m afraid of getting too deep into the philosophy of gender with him. He could easily pass for a cis girl, and I’m terribly worried that he’s sensitive like one.
There is !chat@lemmynsfw.com but it’s kinda dead