Anyone have any advice for navigating coming out as bisexual recently. I just moved states so I haven’t been able to get a good grasp on the social scene yet, is there maybe a way of thinking about dating preferences without actually dating?
I’ve thought about going to a gay bar but I’ve never been to any and I really don’t know what to do.
What do you mean when you say think ‘about dating preferences without actually dating’?
How do know what kind of people I like, nosurere really
What’s your apprehension about going out and meeting people to help you find what you’re looking for?
I mean by all means jot down a couple of deal breakers for yourself when considering a partner (I.e. non-smoker, doesn’t physically abuse me, no drug addiction etc) but there’s only so far you can go with theorising a partner.
People will surprise you in my experience. Behaviour or characteristics you thought you really didn’t like suddenly becomes irrelevant when it’s the right person.
Also I’ve moved around a fair bit so again, so making socialconnectionns has never been a strong suit
Going out… I’m a home body and have dealt with a lot of psychological crap over the years. Right now I’m in a good spot and need to make up for lost time socially, I have virtually no experience
To me it sounds like you’re saying this:
Hey Lemmy, I want to learn how to ride a bicycle but I don’t actually want to ride a bicycle as part of learning how to ride one. I also don’t want to make any mistakes learning how to ride a bicycle.
If someone came up to you and said that, would you think that’s reasonable?
Exactly, it’s paradoxical and frustrating because I’m trying to do something that doesn’t make any sense