Hi Lemons 😉
I was wondering what sort of things turn men on visually and personality wise? Same question for women?
And how come we don’t have more active users interested in sharing nsfw pictures, roleplaying and just other stuff? So much potential but still not many users?
Hi Beth.
Honestly, its tricky to boil down preferences like this. Personality wise, I feel like people who enjoy talking about their interests but also knowing about mine? I think there’s a lot of folks who are ashamed, or just don’t know how to express, what they do in their free time, and tend to say “nothing” when asked about it, instead of talking about browsing online, reading, playing games, posting, even going on a walk or doing chores. Really, anything that you might have done can be a good conversation point. Though knowing about boundaries and not pushing conversations every day, or every time, cuz people have their own schedules and moods to deal with.
Obviously, respect is a must, so being talked down, patronized, mocked or anything of the type is a major turn off, if not an outright deal breaker. I’ve been with people who’d belittle my hobbies, and I just don’t have time for that type anymore.
Now physically, that’s a toughie. In general, I’m not really into skinny people or muscular men - though buff women are a major plus. Curvier folks tend to catch my eye. I also feel that I have some contrasts between genders - I have higher preference for taller, muscular, energetic women, and shorter, meekier, average men. Also short hair on women and long on men are great - I don’t know why more guys don’t let their hair grow. But the opposites are not real dealbreakers.
Of course, it all gets much more mixed up when you add up transfolks, and really, that’s for the best, but also makes it much more complicated to detail. I guess I just like a lot in people.
On kinky details, I have a preference for pubic hair, especially on pussies, tan lines, leashes, general sub/dom play with plenty of aftercare and cuddles.
For nsfw pictures, IIRC there’s quite a few in the gonewild and similar communities. I’m not particularly interested in those so I can’t point out specific examples. Roleplaying, I can imagine that takes quite effort to moderate, plus you need to have a good amount of people interested on it in the first place. I still go to DPP on Reddit whenever I feel the urge to cook up some smut tales together.
Hey Sam 😊
Thanks a lot for your Interesting response!
Very good point, respect is a must! And it’s cool if people have hobbies whether those hobbies are something outdoors or indoors.
Yes! Aftercare and cuddles are another must!
A lot of times I’ll see a good looking guy but he’ll have this weird/cold/off-putting attitude and that is such a deal-breaker. But I’m sure a lot of women can be like that too. It costs nothing when someone is friendly and nice to hang with 🙏
physically, that’s a toughie. In general, I’m not really into skinny people or muscular men - though buff women are a major plus. Curvier folks tend to catch my eye. I also feel that I have some contrasts between genders - I have higher preference for taller, muscular, energetic women, and shorter, , average men. Also short hair on women and long on men are great - I don’t know why more guys don’t let their hair grow. But the opposites are not real dealbreakers.
This makes sense to me, you like more androgynous and less sharply masculine or feminine people. Also makes sense because people willing to buck gender norms are probably (not absolutely, but probably) more open minded in other ways.
I wouldn’t necessarily say androgynous, I’m highly attracted to “reverse” expectations, or at least societal norms of those expectations. Butch, muscular, masculine women and femme, curvy, meekier men.