How to get out of an uncomfortable egg culture situation with this one simple trick.

Real talk: Calling people eggs is a violation of the egg prime directive, and is considered invalidating as you are trying to say that a person is not the gender they identify as, that their identity is invalid. Donā€™t call people eggs, like ever, itā€™s extremely uncool.

  • First Majestic Comet@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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    6 days ago

    I think the problem of egg culture is a deeper issue, it stems from the idea that one can make another person come out, or that a personā€™s identity can be ā€œknownā€ by others, even against that personā€™s identification. That last part is where the problem stems, ā€œagainst that personā€™s identificationā€. Until and unless we can get over the idea that one can go against the way a person currently identifies, any new term we come up with to replace egg has the potential to be misused and abused in the same way.

    I understand that people can be in denial and that people can change their minds over time, but that is part of the process. The best one can do is to offer support and discuss the idea of gender to someone who might not understand. Without outright telling them they are wrong or that what theyā€™re doing isnā€™t normal. Some people might say that that isnā€™t enough and that some people need force. But itā€™s their choice, and their life. If someone doesnā€™t want to open their mind or identify differently they have every right to dig in their heels. The idea they donā€™t is where and when it becomes toxic and where and when it largely stops being affirming.

    TL;DR A new term could help, but we have to get over and cease the current pushiness, or it too will become corrupted and abused in the same ways ā€œeggā€ is.

    • Lumelore (She/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      6 days ago

      I fully agree with you here. Maybe it would be better to try to make it clear that egg is only for self referential use, unless the word egg is too corrupted to fix, in which case a new term is probably needed.

      • First Majestic Comet@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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        Iā€™m not entirely sure if it is, it might be, but it also might be fine. It might just be a matter of changing peopleā€™s hearts and minds to think differently and use the word correctly. Which is why I think itā€™s better to try and make it clear itā€™s self-reference only, and that policing and labeling others is not tolerated.