Hello Blahaj users,
Unfortunately we have been discussing defederation. I would like for this to be sorted out, but our trans and disabled users deserve to be protected from transphobia and ableism. We know these are behaviors are perpetrated by a minority of Blahaj users, but they are tolerated here in the form of the 196 community. Of course, most Hexbear users are willing to re-federate once this bigoted community is removed. The admin Ada has been very helpful and I have faith in her to do the right thing for the safety of her community members.
In the meantime, I would like to extend an invitation to all leftists here to make an account on Hexbear. As long as you are anti-capitalist, you will be welcome there. We are hyper-inclusive and are strict against all forms of bigotry. There has been much disinformation spread about us, so if you have good faith questions, feel free to ask. We are not “pro-Russia” as many of our detractors claim, we are anti-NATO, as they perpetuate the amerikan empire. Please ask us anything in this thread!
We hope this defederation is temporary, or better yet, never comes. We do not wish to split two large queer instances just weeks after federating, but we must do what we think is right.
Trans rights forever! 
I’m not falling for this shit.
The admin Ada has been very helpful and I have faith in her to do the right thing
A pity then that one of your admins has thrown it all back in my face, with a public call out post currently pinned for all hexbear users to see.
I have done my best to make this work, and for all of my effort, I’ve had it thrown back in my face.
We were accussed of not addressing ableist behaviour. These actions in question occurred whilst I was in bed. Ultimately, I responded to them within 12 hours, removing the content in question and letting the person in question know that ableist language isn’t acceptable.
A hexbear admin accused me of being non responsive for that 12 hour delay. Hexbear on the other hand, let a dogpile thread targetting a blahaj user stand for over 24 hours, despite having something like 3 times as many admins as we do. I understand why it took Hexbear time to respond to the dogpile thread, given how new federation was and how their existing rules didn’t quite account for it. It’s a pity that they don’t offer the same courtesy and understanding in return, expecting response times that they can’t live up to themselves.
A hexbear admin also accussed us of not addressing transphobia in 196, referring to a specific event that occurred around a month ago. Despite finding that incident (that occured in a post that was removed before they were even federating with us) they somehow missed the very public post I made in response calling out transphobic behaviour and making the community expectations clear. A post that was pinned to 196, has over 400 replies and that you can still see right here https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/1105166.
Similarly, one of their admins implied that they were unable to have good faith conversations with Blahaj admin staff. A position that is at odds with the messaging I received from the hexbear admin I have been communicating with, who sent me a message 4 hours ago that ended with “Thank you very much for your time, effort, patience, and perspective during these past few days”
This petty “no u” bullshit from hexbear has definitely soured my opinion of them. Especially finding out that they didn’t even wait to hear from you before defederating
lolwut? 196 is bigoted?
This sounds like some 4chan level “no u” trolling.
I hadn’t really seen anything from Hexbear, and only now and then would these discussions about it pop up in my feed. But the last few days, I’ve seen you specifically popping up a lot stoking flames and causing drama to the point where I can’t escape seeing this shit unless I block every LGBT space I sub to.
So now I’m on the “defed” hexbear side, because I’m betting most users on there are just like you.
I’m not sure if this is another troll or what’s going on. This is in really bad taste.
Yeah this isn’t outreach or conflict resolution, it’s an ad, lol. Which I don’t really care if people advertise other instances, the whole point of the fediverse hinges on not centralizing anything. Just don’t treat me like I’m too stupid to know an ad when I see it.
I’m from some peaceful quiet lemmy that doesn’t have any of whatever this is going on. Why does this sound so malicious?
bc blahaj zone has a comm full of chasers (c/196) that fetishize us trans folk. then they went 0-100 w the ableism and we realized that 196 is incompatible w hexbear
/Me being trans and a member of 196 and never feeling anything but save while looking for this mythical claim
But, blahaj zone is also trans,?
