Hello,

this might sound like a lie or a Letter to Penthouse, but I’m in a situation I’ve never thought to get in and I’m just a bit flabbergasted on how to proceed.

EDIT: Since English is not my First language and I lack the skill to keep this coherent without names,

Let’s say my fiancé’s Name is Lara.

And the Name of the female friend of mine is Nami.

Everything started when Nami came to visit me and Lara to celebrate Lara’s Birthday with us and our friends. Since Nami lives on the other side of the country, she came to stay a whole week with us.

We live near the Beach, so we went there and spent the day. I still have no Idea how we started talking about this, but we started talking that I (m) had no Problem if Lara would kiss another Girl. The conversation continued and she said she would like to experiment with me and another Girl.

Since Nami is in an open relationship with her significant other, we started jokingly talking about this.

Last night, Lara and I talked even more about this. And we agreed that Nami would be the only person (at the moment) with whom we could even think about doing something like this. So because we are cowards and haven’t done anything like this ever, we send her a Text message. (She was literally across the hallway in our living room). She said she somewhat expected something like this and said she will think about it. To be clear, we just want to start slow and I see what is okay to do and what not.

Lara is demisexual, and Nami is also not opposed to Girls (I forgot the correct Terminology, sorry ._.).

I have literally NO Idea what might come and I could REALLY need some advice. Do I just keep rolling with it and see what happens? Or should I do something?

Please don’t give me any “Frat bro”-type of advice, I’m not a Chad or anything. I’m a chubby dude who somehow managed to get a beautiful girl to fall in Love with me. I had sex with only two women ever (multiple times, though), so I know how to have Sex but this would be a HUGE step out of my known territory.

I’ve known Nami for more than 10 years and had a long time crush on her.

And I love Lara with all my heart.

  • RBWellsV23@lemmynsfw.comEnglish
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    1 month ago

    In this particular situation, if the ladies are into each other, my strong suggestion is just to watch, let them be with each other unless your fiancee draws you in very explicitly. Let them lead, especially Lara if she is the slowest sexually and might get overwhelmed.

    And think about it a lot - how will you feel if Lara responds more to Nami than she does with you?

    It’s so hard to know before trying it. I don’t think it’s a bad idea, if you are all close and trust each other, I have enjoyed (the other sort of) threesome so much but with guys who got off seeing me with another guy. Is this how you feel? Are you turned on by the idea of someone else pleasuring Lara? Or do you just think if it’s a girl it doesn’t count in some way? I wouldn’t count on that feeling holding up under the pressure of actually seeing it.