I hope this is relevant for this community, because I don’t know where else to post this. I’m honestly scared to post it anywhere else.

I live in Eastern Europe. I’m a university student, and recently, we got an American exchange student. They’re a very outspoken liberal.

A few days ago, we took them out with a few mates out for beers (they’re under 21, so they didn’t drink, even though you can here if you’re at least 18) to break the ice and make them feel comfortable. We got talking and because I’ve never been to the US, I asked them what I thought was an innocuous question. For some context, I’ve been a communist for a very long time, and joined the communist party the day I turned 18.

I basically asked them: Why would I vote for Harris? How would that improve the situation in the US and abroad? I’m not too familiar with her, but her politics don’t seem too appealing, especially her support for Israel and her incarceration background.

That made them launch into a screaming rant about how I’m a conservative for doubting her abilities and deserve to be jailed for wanting to infringe on the rights of women. There were a few more insults targeted at me for asking that question, I didn’t really understand them. The entire time, I was not even saying anything, I was honestly too shocked to react, but they just kept screaming until they got up and stormed out in a rage after calling me a Trump supporter, misogynist, and a fascist. My mates were equally confused. We tried to figure it out, but everyone is equally stumped.

I’ve been thinking about that entire situation for a couple days, and I’m so confused about their reaction. They even refuse to speak to me now.

What have I done wrong? Can someone please explain? ☹️ I really don’t understand what happened. We have liberals here of course, but even the worst ones never behave like this.

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    You could post this in c/askchapo or lemmygrads question comm, for future reference. As others have said, here is fine too.

    This reads to me like there was some context left out (I assume be accident), possibly communication difficulties that you weren’t aware of. I really need to think there were other things said or maybe wording that implied something you didn’t mean, or something like that, because it’s a very unnatural reaction.

    If what you relayed is the full and accurate picture, the person you are talking to is hopelessly unstable and you did nothing wrong. In the future, to avoid stepping on landmines, it would probably be good to start with some less challenging questions to see how they respond before you give them a prompt as heavy as what you gave. A lot of people aren’t ready to be given such a challenge so abruptly, and might feel like they’ve been ambushed or “put on the spot”.

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      I gave pretty much all the context. We were sitting at a pub, they has a Harris pin and were very political from the get go. Very excited to share their political beliefs. So that’s what lead me to asking that question. It seemed like fair game with all the political messaging

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    You haven’t done anything wrong. American hardcore liberals are genuinely the worst kind of person, perhaps even worse than the typical fascists due to their hysterical, performative, deranged faux-progressive fascism and holier-than-thou attitude, all of which combines to create a monstrosity that is incapable of relating to other human beings in a decent manner the second they are met with anything but subservient agreement.

    If it helps, their antics will probably ensure that they get a place by the wall regardless of what comes next, whether it be socialism or barbarism, if they keep it up.

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    American politics are purely based on identity that this point. To the liberal mind, there are only two teams, and you’re on the other team unless you give your undying loyalty to your team.

    I have so many coworkers who think me criticizing the sitting president or his heir to throne makes me a republican. Any possible grievance I have will be countered with “but trump will be worse?! Check mate.”

    Every single person I know who spent a semester abroad is even more insufferable. They will talk about this trip to europe the rest of their life, inserting it into every conversation to give them a false sense of being well traveled.

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      Thanks for the comment. It’s really strange, because here, there’s very little politics-based tribalism. Sure, you have some crazy right-wingers and ancaps that have sprung up after our socialist system was murdered, but if this student is anything to go by, they’re still tame by comparison.

      I can see how this student would get isolated, then come back to the U.S. telling everyone how horrible our country is because nobody wanted to talk to them.

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    Liberals are insecure. They reflexively start name-dropping news agencies, universities, dudes with British accents, or whatever they can so you affirm their beliefs and not a single one outside of their bubble. Also someone studying abroad typically has means so they were likely coddled their entire life (I am guessing here).

    I ran into one recently that kept name dropping associated press and Reuters with regards to denouncing Palestinian resistance and their so called “violence” essentially justifying the genocide and saying such and such paper stated Iran tricked the resistance into Oct 7th. Dumb shit like that.

    The worse revenge you can do to a liberal is ignore them. They hate that the same smugness they treat you with.

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    When you believe you’re working to save the world, you come to think that anyone who opposes you is a fool and react thusly.

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      But we are actually saving the world and are completely justified in thinking anyone who opposes us is a fool… right?

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        No, not a fool. What communism oppose isn’t some misguided evildoers, that’s an entire ruling class working in their own interests, regardless how they see it.

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    Is this bait?

    Edit: not that I don’t think liberals can be absolutely insane, but calling you a trump supporter when you aren’t even American is too on the nose

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      My Dad is a Blue MAGA guy, and yes he refers to people he doesn’t like as Trump supporters sometimes, even out of political settings. Like if someone is on a motorcycle and it’s kinda loud, he’ll basically be like “hm probably a Trump supporter” or he’ll say it about St Louis Cardinals fans, but that one is actually pretty believable

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      While I understand your reasoning, there are actual non-Americans who support Trump. Are they rare? Sure, but they do exist and it’s as weird as you would think.

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        Im an European, and I would like to Trump get to the office for one simple reason: He was the only US president when no new armed conflicts emerged, most in fact quieted down - even Ukraine during the time he was in office calmed down for some time. North Korea calmed down, the middle east calmed down, even the Abraham accords was created.

        If I could, I would support him just for that reason. I dont care if he is a buffoon, if it means less conflicts globally…

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          Agreed, with the caveat regarding the Abraham accords- because seriously, that wasn’t a positive thing. The MENA region was calmer overall perhaps, but the stage was being set for the industrial scale genocide going on today (not that the Zionists weren’t committing genocide continuously prior to this- or that any other POTUS would have not also been just as bad).

          I don’t think anyone should support Trump in a similar vein to how a choice between Hitler, Goebbels, and/or even Churchill would be no choice at all- but I’d say that in pretty much every way that matters, Trump was better for the world at large than the “Biden” regime (which itself is just a return to the bipartisan global destabilization and genocidal encroachment policy that the US had been following for decades up to Obama, before Trump’s bad optics and lesser hawkishness threw a wrench in the works.

          Hell, I’d even say he was probably better in most ways domestically as well (as an outsider looking in). The second he left, it seems half of the US (and pretty much all of the broader west) or more turned right back from performative hysteria over the business-as-usual fascism inherent in the system, to stepford smiler-style willfull ignorance and complete denial of reality once again (with an added bonus of warmongering suicidality and somehow accelerating the fascist spiral even more while pretending things had never been as good or progressive).

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      It’s not uncommon for Americans to think the world revolves around them.

      It is also not uncommon for people interested in politic all over the world to have an opinion about American politics.

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      It’s not that people here support Trump. The American called me a Trump supporter.

      I also don’t understand why this would be bait?

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    Cold-war propaganda that is fundamentally integrated into mainstream American culture that associates anything left of bombing the middle-east and lukewarm, meaningless platitudes is going to destroy the very fabric of the nation.

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    All true believer liberals are, ever notice that the biggest political party in america is ‘undecided’?

    The deranged nature of american liberalism isnt lost on them either.

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    They act like the entire world is USA, thinks like them and has the exact same mindset and point of view as them, that’s why you’ll see bullshit about 4th July or elections from a country on the other side of the planet every single time even if you’re from Transnistria, Zimbabwe or Nauru. And they get extremely offended when you insult their war criminals, cops in this case, genocidal maniacs or slave owners(depending on whom you’re talking about) since they’re their national heroes and have a cult of personality but literally. Same thing with their shitty ass-wiper flag. This mentality is exclusive to them.

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    wait is this for real? they sound like a CIA bot. they are brainwashed. the US has the best propaganda in the world and definitely the largest propaganda budget.

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      Highly recommend you read Masses, Elites, and Rebels. I was just corrected myself on the topic of brainwashing the other day by some people here. They are not a brainwashed CIA bot, they are a beneficiary of imperialism who latched onto propaganda as a means of justifying their place in the world and their continued inaction.

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    In addition to the other responses, we don’t have much nuance in our political conversations. Partially because we hear the same thing repeatedly but also because other views don’t break into our bubble that often. It ends up framing everything much more like a script to be followed. If you’re challenging the “left-wing” candidate, you must be doing so from the stance of someone who supports the right-wing candidate. That’s the script. And very often, those roles come with baggage (eg, ‘trump supporter’, ‘misogynist’, etc.). So because you have put yourself in one of those roles/boxes, the script in their mind is being followed, and you’ve taken on that baggage.

    You can see this in our media discussions as well. Who likes what movies, franchises, why, etc. Many people are unaware that they are acting this prescriptively, so we often talk past each other and rarely act in as good of faith as we think we are engaging in. Neo-liberalism is built on flexible word choices, slogans, and terms without meaning. This results in a lot of reverse terminology, empty words, and a clinging of identity and labels around more solid terms. The latter has the effect of simplifying people and positions into boxes that result in script-like behavior due to regurgitating known responses and interactions with people in that label over there. The implication that you might not fit that label demands an immediate and intense examination of the subject matter in a few seconds or risk not appearing smart/moral/etc. So not only is that a threat to their image, but it’s a lot of internal pressure in a short time—hince the response you got from them was very reflexive and combative.

  • Because most Americans have been fooled into thinking that all possible scenarios in politics are found by the two parties, as right as humanly possible are the Republicans and left as humanly possible are the Democrats with “moderates”* in between…

    So any attack on Kamala means that you are literally MAGA.

    • “American moderates” tend to know absolutely nothing whatsoever about politics. These people don’t even watch the news or follow politics at all but usually vote because they’re bored or some misplaced feeling of civic duty.
  • I will add something I haven’t seen here that may help.

    First off, you’re in the right.

    It’s possible that the wording and tone you used were different than this person usually deals with. Eastern Europeans in my experience are much more direct, in a way that can come off as aggressive- to Americans. Many if not most Americans are not used to this, they’re much more passive-aggressive, are used to changing up their word choice and tone with different audiences and subject matters, often trying to avoid confrontation. So saying your thoughts clearly to them may have actually seemed like you were attacking their beliefs. Challenging someone’s thought processes, especially around politics, is something Americans often don’t deal with outside of confrontation. You’re not supposed to think about that, you feel right or wrong. Interrogating what you believe to attempt to come up with a better political view is never spoken of here in the mainstream, that’s a very foreign concept I usually only see in leftists, go figure. Of course there are still many Americans that aren’t like this, but I thought I’d offer this up as a possibility.

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    Scratch a liberal and a fascist bleeds.

    The slightest inconvenience to liberals, including access to treats or vacations, makes them thirsty for blood. Well, thirstier because liberals tend to love bloodshed when it’s presented for their entertainment from embedded footage of war crimes on screens.

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    The contradictions are sharp enough now that simply acknowledging the terrible things the dems do/have done the past 4 years can provoke a full-blown chimp out. Trump Would Do Worse makes up the vast amount majority of everything I hear from them whenever they pester those like us who can no longer stomach the rat race. I think the reason they’re so aggro this cycle is because deep down they know that they don’t really have a leg to stand on beyond bluanon crap. They can’t accept that the fact that you simply can’t claim to be anti-cop and anti-genocide and then not only vote for them, not only stump for them, but also piss and moan when we refuse to. It stresses them out to address that contradiction and call it out for what it is, self-interested fascist apologia. This is what happens when your only perception of what fascism is comes from Spielberg movies and other holocaust oppression porn.

    If I were you I would probably either ignore them or corner them if you’re already stuck in a conversation and ask point blank if non-American lives are worth sacrificing to them to get what they want: Trump crying on election day so they can gloat and over-post about it for the next 4 years and go back to being blind, deaf, and dumb to geopolitics (whilst pissing and moaning ineffectually about SCOTUS and congress every day).

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      Thanks for the very detailed response. It’s interesting insight.

      I don’t think I’ll speak to them again, or want to at all. They have already angered a few other people, and I think they’ll eventually get isolated because nobody will talk to them (apart maybe from the couple other American exchange students). We really did our best to make this student feel included despite their unrelated mishap (calling our school racist because we didn’t have any black people, in a country that’s 95% culturally homogenous and speaks a Slavic language).

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        Yeah, it sucks but we’re not therapists or priests. We’re leftists. We can’t give them absolution for the despair they feel about the fact that their way of life is threatened, or the guilt they feel about choosing to live in denial. Which is what I honestly think they’re looking for when they do the “well what DO we do except vote?!?1” thing. I had to hit rock bottom a couple times before deciding to change the way I think and dispose of old ideology so I guess that’s what it’s going to have to take before they maybe open their minds.

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          We can’t give them absolution for the despair they feel about the fact that their way of life is threatened, or the guilt they feel about choosing to live in denial

          Honestly, I don’t want them to get absolution, or to escape their guilt. Not until they finally figure it out, come to terms, and start acting like decent human beings (ie. not supporting genocide directly or indirectly, for a starter).

          Until then, I’m perfectly fine with them continuing to make an ass of themselves, or even heading in self-destructive ways before imploding or ending one way or another. Fuck them, genocidaires and their ilk get what they get.

          The rest of the world, thankfully, is not made of AmeriKKKan libs (and even of Anglo libs, those who have a shred of decency will eventually move on- those who won’t, will stay libs). And the rest of the world has moved on past their murderous ways, at least, the vast majority of humanity has, and sees them for the faux-progressive, chaunvinistic, brainwashed aberrations they are.

          They can figure out human decency, or head straight to oblivion. The metaphorical beatings (of being faced with reality and the facts they are terrible people and everyone knows it) will continue until they either die or learn their lesson. Either is perfectly fine by my books, either is an ideal outcome when we’re talking about genocidaires.

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            Agreed. I just don’t have any sympathy left. Seeing the fake leftists immediately get with the program as soon as the dems shed their skin and crowned Kamala really made me realize that USAmericans like them fundamentally don’t understand or care about the nature of their empire. The most galling thing I think is the Buying Time assertion, wherein voting for the dems will give leftists the space they need to work against fascism. Just don’t ask them what that actually entails, or what they’ve been doing since 2020 and 2016 when that talking point was also deployed. Nor should you ask how that can be true when the dems have been actively quashing free speech since last October, going so far as to legally codify dissent as anti-semitic “hatred”. It’s extremely self-indulgent, self-aggrandizing thinking that conveniently lets them defer any serious political action until after they know they’ve gotten what they wanted. I’ll remind you once again that that was what these same libs said in 2020 and I think we all know that they’ve pissed away all that time buying into poli-tainment as usual instead of “preparing” as they put it. I’m going to just start asking “buying time for what?” because I genuinely have no idea what they mean.

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              Couldn’t have put it better myself. If they can’t get with the program (of not backing genocide) then they can go straight to hell and I’ll be glad to see them go. Those who clown for Klanmala deserve nothing less as I see it, they aren’t friends, they aren’t comrades, hell, while they’re technically of the same species that is only a mark of shame on the rest of us.

              These scum could have a thousand, or a million years even, and it would never be enough. If they cannot demonstrate the bare minimum of human decency as to stand against the empire, the genocide, the warmongering, racism, etc. here and now they can and should die for all I care, I’m glad the rest of the world is moved past them and I’ll cheer on the destruction of the west should society at large continue to fail at that lowest possible criterion of humanity, even if I go down with it. They’re nothing more than another competing variety of fascist in the clown show of empire (where all the various fascists are accusing each other of being the “true fascists”).

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                Yes, I’ve had to reevaluate my own models of why American “leftists” do what they do this past year and engage in some self-crit.

                Even after all this time I was still operating on the admittedly liberal logic that they just didn’t have all the facts and were propagandized and that our duty was to provide that information. I failed to understand that they’re only human and won’t turn on the ideology that’s provided them with what they materially want and need. It’s not that it’s impossible to convert them. I just think it’s likely that lib idealism eases their contradictions more effectively than ML ideology does.

                The worst part about it is that I was also roughly on their level only 2-3 years ago. I know exactly what they think. They think that there will be some magic combination of elected representatives to defeat the SCOTUS and the parliamentarian and all the other obstacles and booby traps their system throws up to protect itself.

                I guess the bottom line here is that history tells us that cooperation with libs holds very little promise of us getting what we want because they are not living in reality and as such will not behave realistically. I’m willing to be wrong if any comrade can explain why but I see no way to make them understand.

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                  I’ve been where they were once myself, as well (several years back now). Killing off the last ignorant seeds of electoralism in me has been a process that probably only really died completely in the later years of Trump, if not during the Biden term (not an American- Canadian- but nowadays I won’t so much as touch that trash, frankly if I did it would probably only be a spite vote for the more “accelerationist” and disruptive domestic party- which in itself would be the opposite of acceleration for the rest of the world as the western regimes as-is have nothing to be salvaged from whatsoever).

                  And it’s because I understand these “leftists” that I have no sympathy for them whatsoever. They can either get with the program- or not, and hopefully die with it instead. They can convert, but the rest of the world won’t wait for the slave-owners, the genocidaires, the “golden billion” in their garden to take their time to do so, and right up until they do I have nothing pleasant to say to them or think of them.

                  The rising anti-Asian hatred and preparing to destroy the prosperity of China (as an ethnic Chinese) and ASEAN (where my family is from) already had made me bitter and alienated as all hell. Then the outright crusading against Russia and the goosestepping towards yet another front for WW3 simply confirmed that bitterness. But seeing industrial genocide against the Palestinians was truly a complete breaking point; by all means, these scum (liberals) deserve everything they get and more, right up until they learn or die from it. And one way or another I suspect they’ll either learn or die from it, considering how the empire is spiraling, and that can only be a good thing.

                  If they want to promote death so much, if they want to promote the so-called “lesser evil” (that is every bit as evil as its counterpart), if they want to “buy time” and “comfort” at the expense of the rest of the world, then they can and should have all the death and evil in the world done unto them, and they can and should choke on it.

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                  The worst part about it is that I was also roughly on their level only 2-3 years ago. I know exactly what they think.

                  Almost all of us were some number of years ago, and we know exactly what they think because we used to think them. It’s pretty funny/annoying when they say we’re in an echo chamber/bubble, as if we haven’t been receiving exactly the same indoctrination, education, and propaganda as they our whole lives. Everything they know, we also know, so who’s the one in a bubble?

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        because we didn’t have any black people

        Yeah that tends to happen when your country doesn’t abduct over 20 million people and take them across an ocean to another continent so they can be used as slaves lmao