No, it’s not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were. I don’t know if I’d go for full on snuggling but I come from a physically affectionate family and in general wish people were more comfortable with that kind of thing
No, it’s not socially acceptable. Yes, I wish it were.
Like, does this mean you are afraid of other people you don’t know judging you, or that you or your friends find it socially unacceptable?
Either way that seems to be more of an individual problem rather than a social one. I am physically affectionate with my friends and have never been confronted about it by a member of the public , not that I would really care if I were. People be dumb, I’m not going to let someone else’s projected homophobia dictate my friendship.
That it would be viewed as awkward and unwelcome by the other participants. Consent is key, yo
Interesting. I come from a family that wasn’t very physically affectionate, and I hug most of my friends every time I see them.
I go for the hug when I see friends I haven’t seen in a long time, or when I’m parting ways with someone I know I won’t see for a while. But it’s definitely not a regular occurrence
I haven’t had anything beyond a hug from my mother in 10 years.
A boss of mine some time ago would sneak up and pat me on the back, scaring me most of the time. Back then I hated it.
These days something like that would make my whole week.
We very much are, hugs and kisses and all. But waaay more important (not everybody is into physical affection on a platonic level) we share our feelings and give each other compliments.
It is very sad to see how many men outside our bubble try to uphold this stupid idea of what it needs to be a man, while struggling with their mental health and the ability to have meaningful relationships.
Wait, so you all are telling me that you don’t kiss the homies goodnight?
I have hooked up with several of my friends, we cuddle often, and are not afraid so show affection, but we’re all homos so I guess that’s less odd. But I have met straight guys who are very confortable being platonically affectionate with us. I feel like society prevents me from being touchy out of fear of being called gay. It’s not gay to lay your head on your bro’s lap. Those thick tights are comfy af.
I am bisexual and somewhat poly. With some of my friends I have a more publicly physical/intimate relationship. We may hold hands, hug, or kiss. In private, we cuddle and… do other things as well. I imagine the straights of Lemmy will largely tell you they don’t cuddle their male friends while the queer folk will give a different answer.
Sorta. I’m a comfortable person expressing affection and my inner emotions with friends. I’m also often the one initiating the sharing asking how they are etc, and the physical touch. It’s nearly always me initiating, so I’m kinda uncertain how it is in the other person’s head. Obv not bad enough to recoil or ask me to stop, but maybe they’re just a bit uncomfortable.
Yes. I want it more. I look at relationships among women where that level of physical affection is part of the connection and reinforces it and I want that. I only really have that with my wife and one close friend, who is a woman.
No, I’m not.
As for social acceptance I like my personal space. Don’t care what you do as long as I can opt out.
Hugging, definitely.
Snuggling, maybe? Like maybe we both fell asleep in the back of a van and ended up snuggling a bit and when we woke up we’re not weirded out by it.
Wrestling, maybe, but it would probably be with kids or pets around. I can’t remember doing it but I wouldn’t be weirded out by it.
It wasn’t always this way though. I was raised southern Baptist. Becoming OK with male physical interactions and homosexuality was a journey, and I am much happier with how accepting I am now than when I said I was as a Christian who had this low-key hypocritical “I know the truth of god and accept everybody” while also looking down on sinners.
I have a gay friend who came to visit me and we went around the city and to a house party and had a great time and then fell asleep in the beach. The next day he said “that was one of the best dates I’ve ever been on” and it caught me off guard because I was just “hanging out”, but if it had been a girl, it would have been a great date, and I thought “ok, sure, it was a ‘date’ with a guy friend and that’s ok.” It was a big step for me.
Not really a response related to the post prompt, but more your comment…
I grew up on a farm in rural NC. Graduated college with a film degree & headed west to LA. I wound up rooming with a friend a from high school, his girlfriend, & her friend from fashion school…
…who turned out to be a 6’7”, 225lbs, gay volleyball player & ex-cheerleader from Korea.
My friend only knew me as the little redneck kid who used to throw rocks at rabbits & swore too much growing up. He lectured me on behaving around a gay man & really made a big deal about not being ass to our roommate.
4 years later I transitioned & got my first makeup lessons from that roommate. He became my drag mom 🤣
Time is a mindfuck sometimes…
Thats a super cute story 😁
I hug my friends. I don’t want to snuggle with them.
Hugging yes, “playful” wrestling no. When we wrestle we do it hard and I 8/10 times come home bruised
If I was hard when wrestling I’d start questioning my sexuality
Some people naturally get erect during physical exercise. Even things like running and swimming.
Shhhs as true as this is, the joke doesn’t work when people start throwing facts about!
Hugging yes, but with a very limited range of friends, and I don’t have much.
I’m okay with a guy initiating a hug, but sometimes it takes me by surprise. But it’s a good surprise.
I feel it’s acceptable, just doesn’t happen often.
I (from the US) visited my cousins in Italy, and as we were driving around, my cousin and his best friend were joking back and forth in Italian, and it ended with him just kissing his friend on the cheek out of nowhere. It was very cute and entirely non sexual lol. Got a kick out of it since i don’t really see that at all in the US.
The guys I go to tantra classes with are very affectionate, and it’s so lovely.
buddy I’m a furry I’ll hug strangers
