For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.

They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.

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    I got banned from lemmy.world/c/linuxsucks, which is one person’s mental illness, so who cares? Doesn’t stop me from calling him an idiot when they show up elsewhere.

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    I have the same issue with saying “whats up guys?!” I’ve legit had women say “um, I’m not a guy, ‘girlfriend’.” It’s like, get over it. It’s a figure of speech Yeesh calm down.

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    Wow, somebody that day was salty, and pretty much just looking for a comment to get mad about.

    There’s another FOSS project idea: a bot that detects Lemmy bans and sends you a notification about it.

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      Another idea, take the mod log and allow voting on mod actions in a way that makes unpopular ones more visible. Give the users tools to evaluate moderators and admins to speed up the process of removing bad mods or users discovering they shouldn’t bother with an instance with bad admins. Or, with a different sorting method, it could highlight mods that aren’t power tripping losers.

      Maybe a similar system for reporting, since it wouldn’t surprise me if some mods feel like they need to act because of pressure from losers who power trip with the report button. You know, the kind that feels the need to inform people they’ve been reported.

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    who cares. some of these communities are trash who don’t allow you to participate if you don’t align with their views. no different than reddit.

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      OP’s complaint is that he was not aware of the ban so he was commenting into nothing.

      This is really software issue, they can ban him, and he can block them back. No problem at all.

      The issue is that these servers are blocking new people and they might get pissed about not knowing it. This is UX issue for fediverse.

      On top of it, these bans are arbitrary and capricious for the most part, so again, this will piss anyone who does know how fediverse works.

      We got 50k AMU, with too many mods with nothing to do, so they find busy work.

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        fair but I’ve been banned because I didn’t follow the flow of the political narrative of the conversation. I don’t consider myself squarely in one camp so I read, understand, and comment/criticize what I feel I want to engage with. I will admit i was auto banned from one instance and got no response from anyone, so I can relate to what your comment is getting at.

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          I didn’t follow the flow of the political narrative of the conversation.

          There is a lot of censorship on lemmy both personal bias and outright regime narrative support.

          That’s a huge issue, no doubt.

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    They could not in fact get over it, dude.

    They must feel very strongly about the word dude. I’m in your camp on it. It’s an exclamation, nothing more 🤷

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    I just checked my username in the mod log… Apparently I’ve been banned from 13 different communities. Interestingly none on hexbear despite habitually going there and accusing everyone of huffing paint/glue/other solvent abuse.

    Edit: on closer inspection, apart from one from blåhaj they’re all from Lemmy.ml so I guess it doesn’t count.

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      How do you check your name in the mod log? I feel as though I’ve been pretty chill but I’m curious to see if I’ve stepped on anyone’s toes.

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        You called someone’s reply rude and a mod removed your comment. It’s the only thing in the mod log under your username.

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          @recklessengagement@lemmy.world if you go to the bottom of the page on the default web frontend, there’s a link to the modlog and you can search your username.

          I have no idea how well federation of modlogs works exactly, though. I usually check on ml to see if I’ve been banned again on ml (you don’t have to be logged in).

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            I’m apparently banned from some vegan community because I argued against them when they said they’re more oppressed than black people in America 😂🤣😂🤣

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    Wow. That is about the tamest comment that’s ever gotten someone banned.

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      I’ve seen worse for just for putting criticism in threads asking for user’s “questions, concerns, requests and issues”. And at the admin level, in a major instance where they never really apologized or corrected themselves until a couple of months later without really assuming any blame.

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    I’m just glad I’m not the only one who views dude as androgynous.

    I thought I was one of the few.

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      I find these always interesting to read in the following sentence: ‘I fucked a bunch of dudes’.

      Do you also believe that this sentence would work for you? (Assuming you are a heterosexual)

      Because I always thought I was in the ‘Dude is androgynous’ camp, but after considering that sentence: I don’t think so anymore

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        It’s male-leaning, although it gets used androgynously.

        If someone personally didn’t want to be called dude, I’d avoid it. Otherwise it’s not worth freaking out over.

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        Conflation due to context?

        I think sexual activity adds implied gender relationships that shift how ‘dude’ is interpreted. While ‘dude’ can feel androgynous in casual contexts, in a phrase like ‘fucked a bunch of dudes,’ the sexual framing amplifies its masculine connotations. This shows how cultural norms around sexuality and gender can override attempts at neutrality.

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      I find it androgynous and will use it for anyone, but if anyone told me they were uncomfortable with me referring to them that way, I would stop, as with anything. It’s simply decent to refer to people as they prefer.

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    Wouldn’t be a leftist platform if they didn’t spend the majority of their time and effort self policing based on their purity tests instead of doing something actually productive

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      I still remember watching that socialist convention that spent an hour doing nothing but teaching people to wave their hands in the air to signal applause and running someone down that dared to use the word “guys”. Point of Personal Privilege, my ass.

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    The key is that you said “but…” which in some communities fails the test of absolute 100% agreement and makes you The Enemy. I had a very similar experience there, in my case it was saying someone who is “uncomfortable” with gender issues might not actually “hate” anybody, they could just be having trouble overcoming how they were raised. But in the end it’s like if a TV channel stops but you get thousands of other channels, so oh well <shrug>.

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    Consider the source of the action(a person pursuing a position of authority on a relatively miniscule network) and keep on keeping on. Decades of forums moderated by basement dwellers with a Napoleon complex have made it hard for me to take things like this seriously.

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=SmAOBbUiZcY